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Depression aur udaasiJab aapka koi apna udaasi mein doob jaaye
Kisi depression wale ke saath khade insaan ke liye ek garm, seedhi guide: kyun tiki rehne wali udaasi ek bimaari hai, yeh paas se kaisa dikhta hai, aapki or se asal mein kya madad karta hai, apna khayaal kaise rakhein, aur kab kadam uthaayein.
Yeh bimaari hai, aalas nahi
Jab aapka koi apna aisi udaasi mein doob jaaye jo hafton tak uthne ka naam na le, to yeh ek sehat ki samasya hai, koi aalas, kamzor charitra, ya aapko door dhakelne ka tareeka nahi. Aapne ise paida nahi kiya. Aap ise akele theek nahi kar sakte. Par aap madad kar sakte hain, aur yeh aapki soch se kahin zyada maayne rakhta hai.
Shayad aapne dekha ho ki aapka koi apna woh kaam karna chhod chuka hai jo pehle karta tha, aur aapne socha ho ki kahin usne haar to nahi maan li, ya kahin baat aapki to nahi hai. Dono mein se kuch nahi. Depression ek maani hui bimaari hai jo badal deti hai ki dimaag aur shareer kaise kaam karte hain, aur yeh jeev-vigyaan, zindagi ki ghatnaaon, aur haalat ke mel se banti hai, aur sirf kisi ke yeh kehne bhar se nahi utarti ki aur mehnat karo.
Yeh pehli baat hai jise thaame rakhna hai, aur sabse mushkil bhi. Aapne ise paida nahi kiya, aap ise akele theek nahi kar sakte, par aap madad kar sakte hain. Ilzaam bas us cheez par aur bojh daalta hai jo pehle hi bhaari hai. Samasya bimaari hai, woh insaan nahi, aur na hi aap.
Yeh jaanna bhi madad karta hai ki kitni baar madad waqt par logon tak nahi pahunchti. Bharat mein jinhe ilaaj se faayda ho sakta hai, unmein se bahut bada hissa woh ilaaj kabhi paata hi nahi.
- Madad karta hai: unke saath chupchaap baithna, bina yeh chaahe ki ve khush ho jaayein.
- Madad karta hai: chhote, bina dabaav wale bulaave, aur lagaataar kaam-kaaj mein haath bantaana.
- Ulta padta hai: isse bahar aa jaao, jo hai uske liye shukr manaao, dusron ka haal bura hai.
- Ulta padta hai: dabaav, bhaashan, ya unki jagah sab khud theek kar dena.
Aur jaanna chahein to
Jo cheezen ulti padti hain, unmein se koi bhi kisi buri jagah se nahi aati. Ve pyaar se aur bebasi se aati hain. Par kisi depression wale insaan se yeh kehna ki bas achha mehsoos karo, aisa hai jaise bukhaar wale se kehna ki bas thande ho jaao. Yeh bimaari tak pahunchta hi nahi, aur chupchaap unhe yeh keh deta hai ki unki takleef ek chunaav hai. Yeh samajhna ki yeh ek haalat hai, iraade ki naakaami nahi, badal deta hai ki aap unke saath kaise khade hote hain.
Peechhe hatna bimaari hai, thukraana nahi
Paas se dekhein to depression aksar ek dheeme pade shareer aur peechhe hat jaate insaan jaisa dikhta hai. Ve bahut zyada ya bahut kam so sakte hain, khaane aur logon mein man kho sakte hain, dheere chal aur soch sakte hain, aur chidchide ya door-door lag sakte hain. Yeh peechhe hatna bimaari ka unhe andar kheenchna hai, is baat ki nishani nahi ki unhone aapko chaahna band kar diya.
Depression aam udaasi se kahin zyada hai. Udaasi din ka zyadatar hissa, hafton tak tiki rehti hai, aur jo cheezen pehle maza deti theen ve maza dena band kar deti hain. Aapko ek dheema pada shareer dikh sakta hai, tooti-phooti neend, bhookh na lagna ya dil bahlaane ko khaana, ek bhaari thakaan, aur chhote-chhote faisle ajeeb tarah se mushkil hote hue. Chidchidaapan bhi aam hai, aur yeh sabse kareebi logon ko chubh sakta hai.
Jab aapka koi apna message ka jawaab dena band kar de ya yojnaayein radd kar de, to ise thukraana samajh lena aasaan hai. Yeh kareeb-kareeb kabhi nahi hota. Peechhe hatna bimaari ka andar ki or khinchna hai, insaan ka aapke khilaaf hona nahi. Yeh jaanna aapko aahat hone ke bajaaye garm bane rehne deta hai, aur garmjoshi hi asal mein madad karti hai.
Agli baar jab ve peechhe hatein, to ise aawaaz dekar, narmi se kehkar dekhiye: mujhe dikh raha hai ki yeh mushkil hai, aur main tumhaare saath hoon, kahin nahi ja rahi ya ja raha. Aap us pal mein mood theek karne ki koshish nahi kar rahe. Aap unhe bata rahe hain ki darwaaza khula rehta hai, jo kisi insaan ke sunne ke liye sabse kaam ki baaton mein se ek hai.
Salaah se zyada saath
Aapki or se sabse zyada madad sahi salaah nahi karti. Yeh karti hai lagaataar saath, dabaav ke bajaaye chhote bulaave, aur chupchaap kaam-kaaj mein haath bantaana. Unke saath-saath thoda karna, ek naram routine banaye rakhna, aur unhe jude rehne mein madad karna, ye sab ubarne mein sahara dete hain, kisi bhi chatur baat se zyada jo aap keh sakte hain.
Man karta hai ki ve shabd dhoondh lein jo ise theek kar denge. Aam taur par aise shabd hote hi nahi, aur un tak pahunchne ki koshish dono ko kheejh mein chhod sakti hai. Asal mein jo madad karta hai woh zyada tika hua aur seedha-saada hai: wahaan hona, dabaav ke bajaaye chhote bulaave dena, aur chupchaap kaam-kaaj ka kuch bojh uthaana. Ek chhoti sair ka bulaava, zor daale bina. Paka hua ek khaana. Unke saath baithna jab ve kuch bhi na kar rahe hon.
Jo cheez ubarne mein madad karti hai woh hai narmi se dobara judna: chhote, karne layak kaam dheere-dheere wapas jodna, thode-se saath ke saath. Aapka hissa dhakka dena nahi hai, balki aasaan darwaaze kholna hai. Chhoti cheez ka bulaava deejiye, unhe na kehne deejiye, aur kal phir bulaaiye. Jis bulaave ko bina kisi keemat ke thukraaya ja sake, use qabool karna us yojna se kahin aasaan hai jise unhe nibhaana pade.
Aur jaanna chahein to
Kaam-kaaj mein sahara dena garmjoshi jitna hi maayne rakhta hai. Appointment book karne mein madad karna, pehli mulaqaat par saath jaana, koi jama hua kaam apne oopar le lena, ek chhoti cheez suljha dena taaki din kam namumkin lage. Bimaari ne jiski taaqat band kar di ho, uske liye ye bilkul chhoti baatein nahi hain. Aap yeh unke liye hamesha ke liye nahi kar rahe. Aap pehla kadam neecha kar rahe hain taaki ve use utha sakein.
Woh shabd jo dil tak utarte hain
Aapko perfect shabdon ki zaroorat nahi. Aapko garm, seedhe-saade shabd chaahiye jo ilzaam na dein. Sunna aur unke saath bane rehna madad karta hai; khush ho jaao, isse bahar aa jaao, aur jo hai uske liye shukr manaao, ye nahi, kyunki ye kisi insaan se kehte hain ki uski bimaari ek chunaav hai. Jab samajh na aaye, to kam kahiye aur zyada der thahriye.
Sabse aam galtiyaan seedhe pyaar se aati hain. Hum khush ho jaao, jo hai uske liye shukr manaao, dusron ka haal bura hai, in tak pahunchte hain, is umeed mein ki unhe utha denge. Kisi depression wale insaan ko ye aise lagte hain jaise tumhe to achha mehsoos kar lena chaahiye, jo sirf sharmindagi aur badha deta hai. Iska hal koi ratne wali script nahi hai. Yeh hai sunna, thahrna, aur ilzaam aur bhaashan ko chhod dena.
Unhe baaton se isse bahar nikaalne ki koshish ke bajaaye, bas wahi naam leejiye jo aap dekh rahe hain aur saath deejiye. Aapko sahi baat kehni nahi hai. Aapko thahrna hai, aur dil se thahrna hai. Kisi ke paas ki khaamoshi aksar sabse chatur tasalli se zyada keh jaati hai.
Is hafte ek jumla chhod dene ke liye chuniye (isse bahar aa jaao, ya tumhaare paas to shukr manaane ko itna kuch hai) aur ek uski jagah istemaal karne ke liye: yeh sach mein mushkil lagta hai, main yahaan hoon, ya abhi kya madad karega, thoda-sa bhi. Dhyaan deejiye ki dusri tarah ki baat kitni alag tarah se utarti hai.
Khaali bartan se kuch nahi undela ja sakta
Kisi depression wale insaan ki dekhbhaal ek lambi daud hai, aur yeh bhaari hai. Dekhbhaal karne wale par padne wala bojh asli hai aur ise naapa ja sakta hai. Apne aaraam, apne sahare, aur apni hadon ko bachaana khudgarzi nahi hai, yahi woh cheez hai jo aapko madad karte rehne deti hai. Ismein aap bhi maayne rakhte hain, sirf ek madad karne wale ke taur par nahi.
Kisi ki dekhbhaal mein apne aap ko kho dena aasaan hai, khaaskar un parivaaron mein jahaan peechhe hatna chhod dene jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhbhaal karne wale par bojh asli hai, aur Bharatiya parivaaron par hui research paati hai ki dekhbhaal karne wala kitna sahara mehsoos karta hai, aur kitna dhota hai, yeh uski takleef ko utna hi tay karta hai jitna khud bimaari karti hai. Apne aap ko khaali kar dena unki madad nahi karta. Iska bas itna matlab hai ki ek ke bajaaye do log joojh rahe hain.
So apna oxygen mask yojna ka hissa maaniye, baad mein sochne wali baat nahi. Apne aaraam, apni dostiyon, aur apni hadon ko bachaana hi woh tareeka hai jisse aap tike rehte hain. Aapko ek zindagi rakhne ka haq hai, kabhi-kabhi na kehne ka, dusron ka sahara lene ka, aur khud ko kasoorwaar mehsoos kiye bina apni bhaavnaaon ko jeene ka.
- Apni chetaavni ki nishaaniyaan pehchaaniye: thakaawat, jhunjhlaahat, ghabraahat.
- Apni buniyaadi cheezen bhariye: neend, khaana, thoda waqt jo aapka apna ho.
- Bojh baantiye: ghar ke dusre logon ya doston ko kuch dhone deejiye.
- Ek naram had tay keejiye, phir andar kuch bachaakar wapas lautiye.
Khaali bartan se kuch nahi undela ja sakta. Apna khayaal rakhna unse munh modna nahi hai. Yahi woh tareeka hai jisse aap unki or mudte rehne ke qaabil bane rehte hain, baar-baar.
Yaad
Yeh ek lambi daud hai, chhoti race nahi, aur sapaat hafte aayenge. Aap thak jaayenge, sabr kho denge, aur kabhi-kabhi galat baat keh baithenge. Isse aap ek bure dekhbhaal karne wale nahi ban jaate. Lambi nazar banaye rakhiye, logon ka sahara leejiye, aur apne kharaab dinon ko maaf keejiye, wahi riyaayat jo aap unhe dene ki koshish kar rahe hain.
Kab kadam uthaayein, aur sankat
Jab udaasi saari dor apne haath mein le le, to kisi doctor tak pahunchiye: hafte jinmein kuch na uthe, neend, kaam, ya rishton ka bikharna, ya yeh baat ki zindagi jeene layak nahi. Ilaaj kaam karta hai, aur ubarna hi aam nateeja hai. Aatmahatya ki koi bhi baat abhi madad lene ki wajah hai, baad mein nahi.
Zyadatar maayoos daur apne aap guzar jaate hain. Kisi doctor tak pahunchne mein unki madad karne ka waqt tab hai jab udaasi jam jaaye aur unki zindagi ki dor apne haath mein lene lage: hafte jinmein kuch na uthe, aam kaam namumkin hote jaayein, neend aur bhookh buri tarah badal jaayein, ya har us cheez mein man poori tarah kho jaaye jiski ve parwaah karte the. Achhi khabar yeh hai ki asardaar ilaaj maujood hai aur ubarna hi aam nateeja hai, so jaldi haath badhaana sahi hai. Jo depression madhyam ya usse zyada gambheer ho, uske liye doctor baatcheet wali therapy, dava, ya dono de sakte hain, us insaan ke saath milkar chunkar.
Kuch nishaaniyaan aisi hain jinmein aap abhi kadam uthate hain, agle suvidhaajanak mauqe par nahi. Zindagi khatm karne, cheezen baant dene, ya alvida kehne ki koi bhi baat ek aapatkaal hai, koi daur nahi. Agar aapko dar ho ki ve surakshit nahi ho sakte, to unhe akela mat chhodiye, narmi se un cheezon tak pahunch kam kar deejiye jinse ve khud ko nuqsaan pahuncha sakte hain, aur madad leejiye. Unse seedhe poochna ki kya ve aatmahatya ke baare mein soch rahe hain, yeh khayaal unke man mein nahi daalta; yeh ek darwaaza kholta hai aur raahat ban sakta hai.
- Dhyaan rakhiye: hafton tak udaasi, peechhe hatna, badli hui neend aur bhookh.
- Doctor tak pahunchne mein madad keejiye: jab yeh unke kaam, ghar, ya rishton ki dor haath mein le raha ho.
- Aaj hi kadam uthaaiye: maayoosi, yeh baat ki zindagi jeene layak nahi, cheezen baant dena.
- Abhi kadam uthaaiye: aatmahatya ki koi bhi baat ya yojna. Unke saath rahiye aur madad ke liye bulaaiye.
Agar ve surakshit na hon
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