Jab aapka bachcha so nahi pata

Aapne nahla diya, kahani suna di, aakhri gilas paani bhi de diya. Teen baar shubh raatri keh di. Aur phir bhi aawazein aati rehti hain, ya rona, ya andhere mein chhote kadmon ki aahat aapke kamre tak laut aati hai. Jab tak ghar aakhirkaar shaant hota hai, aap khud itne thak chuke hote hain ki neend nahi aati, aur agle din wahi thakan har kaam mein saath chalti hai. Agar aapki raatein aisi hi beetti hain, zyadatar raatein, to aap pehle se jaante hain ki yeh kitna bhaari padta hai.

Neend na aana aur neend bani na rehna, yeh un sabse aam pareshaniyon mein se ek hai jo maata-pita clinic lekar aate hain. Dehradun mein padhe gaye bhaartiya primary school ke bachchon mein, har raat ek se zyada baar jaagna kareeb 8 mein se 1 bachche mein bataya gaya, aur din mein neend aana kareeb chauthai bachchon mein. Aap akele nahi hain, aur aap kuch galat nahi kar rahe.

Yeh kitaab aapke bachche par koi naam nahi chipkayegi. Neend ki pareshani ki kai wajahein ho sakti hain, aur sirf ek doctor jo aapke bachche ko dekhe, wahi bata sakta hai ki kya ho raha hai aur kya kuch aur zaroori hai. Yeh kitaab jo kar sakti hai, woh hai aapko raaton ko samajhne mein madad karna aur ghar mein tanaav kam karna, taaki sone ka samay dheere-dheere dono ke liye ladai banna band ho jaye.

Aage jo kuch bhi aaye, usmein ek shaant bharosa saath rakhiye. Zyadatar bachchon mein, dheeme aur naram badlaavon se neend behtar hoti jaati hai. Aur aap jitna shaant reh paate hain, yeh utni hi jaldi sambhal jata hai. Yeh koi jaadu ya kisi perfect raat ka waada nahi hai. Yahi baat saalon ke research baar-baar batate aaye hain.

Baaki sab se pehle jo baat mann mein rakhni hai, woh yeh hai. Sone ke samay ka rona, taalmatol, baar-baar uthne ke anginat bahaane, raat ko kamre mein aana, ye sab neend ki pareshani ka hi roop hain. Ye aap par nishaana saadhi gayi zid nahi hain. Aapka bachcha aapko tang nahi kar raha. Aapka bachcha khud tang hai.

Neend ek banta hua hunar hai, jo abhi paripakva ho rahi shareer ki ghadi se, sone ki dincharya se, aur bachche ke chaaron or ke kamre se banta hai, kisi sharaarat ke iraade se kahin zyada. Bachche ke na sambhal paane ki saadharan wajahein hoti hain: shareer ki ghadi ka uljha hona, aisa kamra ya dincharya jo dimaag ko jagaye rakhe, raat mein chinta ya badi bhaavnayein, ya phir bas yeh ki usne abhi akele wapas neend mein lautna seekha nahi hai. Tez screen aur der raat ki roshni is tasveer ka ek aam, aur aasani se theek hone wala hissa hain.

To apraadh-bodh ke jaal ko chhod dijiye. Yeh aapki wajah se nahi hua, aur aap neend ko zabardasti nahi la sakte. Neend aisi cheez nahi jise zyada koshish ya zyada sakhti se jeeta ja sake. Lekin aap aise haalaat bana sakte hain jo neend ko aane dein. Yahi badlaav, theek karne se hatkar maahaul taiyaar karne tak, is poori guide ka dil hai.

Ek imaandaar saavdhaani hai, aur woh shaant rehti hai. Zor se kharraate, neend mein saans ka lamba ruk jana, ya din mein bahut zyada neend aana, ye doctor ko batane laayak hain. Ye kisi aisi baat ki or ishaara karte hain jise jaanch mein dekhna chahiye, na ki akele ghar mein suljhana chahiye. Inhe batana ghabraahat nahi hai, yeh bas samajhdaari hai.

Ek pal ke liye us chhote shareer ke andar jhaankiye. Sone ka samay bachche se kehta hai ki woh din ko chhod de, andhere mein akele chupchaap lete, theek usi pal jab mann abhi bhi ghoom raha hai. Ek chhote bachche ke liye, raat mein aapse alag hona koi naatak nahi. Yeh sach aur daraawna lag sakta hai. Aur jo bachcha chinta karta hai, uske liye raat ki khaamoshi wahi samay hai jab dar zor pakadte hain: andhera, koi raakshas, pehle ka koi bura sapna, aapse door hona, ya kal school ki baat.

Phir shareer wahi karta hai jo ek chintit shareer karta hai. Woh satark rehta hai, maanspeshiyaan tani hui, dil thoda tez. Aur ek satark shareer so nahi sakta, chahe woh kitna bhi thaka ho. Yeh zid nahi hai. Yeh ek tantrika tantra hai jise abhi tak bataya nahi gaya ki woh surakshit hai.

Bade bachchon aur kishoron mein kuch aur chalta hai. Jaise-jaise woh bade hote hain, shareer ki ghadi apne aap der ki or khiskti hai, isliye jaldi sulana aisa lag sakta hai maano jaan-boojhkar jaagte rehne ko kaha ja raha ho. Yeh asal jeev-vigyaan hai, aalas nahi, aur der raat ki screen ghadi ko aur der ki or dhakelti hai. Jo zid jaisa dikhta hai, woh aksar ek aisa bachcha hota hai jiske shareer ko abhi neend hi nahi aayi.

Ek chakkar hai jise khulkar batana zaroori hai. Jitna zyada sab log neend lane ki koshish karte hain, kamre mein utna hi dabaav banta hai, aur dabaav neend ka dushman hai. Jo bachcha na so paane se darta hai, woh aur bura sota hai, aur phir aur darta hai. Dono taraf se zyada koshish karna, chupke se ise aur bigaad deta hai.

Sone ke har sangharsh ke peeche lagbhag hamesha ek aisa bachcha hota hai jo itna surakshit mehsoos karna chahta hai ki chhod sake. Saare shor ke neeche yahi naazuk sach hai. Aapki shaant maujoodgi, kisi bhi chatur tarkeeb se badhkar, shareer ko batati hai ki sona surakshit hai. Jab aap sthir rehte hain, kamra zyada sthir hota hai, aur ek zyada sthir kamra woh hai jismein bachcha aakhirkaar aaraam kar sakta hai.

Sabse mazboot madad koi sakht niyam ya kadi aawaz nahi hai. Yeh har raat ek hi samay par ek shaant, andaaze mein aane wali dheemi taiyaari hai: maddham roshni, gungunaa nahaana, ek kahani, ek gale lagna. Har shaam ek hi tarah se karne par, yeh shareer ko sikhata hai ki neend aa rahi hai. Darjanon adhyayanon mein dekha gaya ki is tarah ka naram, vyavhaar wala tareeka zyadatar chhote bachchon mein bharose ke saath madad karta hai, aur yeh faayda maheenon bana rehta hai.

Kuch hi kadam zyadatar bhaar utha lete hain. Sone se kaafi pehle screen band kar dijiye, aur unhe kamre se baahar rakhiye. Tez screen aur uttejit karne wali cheezein sone ke samay ke paas neend ko der karti hain aur chhota kar deti hain, isliye pehle ka, screen-mukt ek ghanta sabse zyada faayda dene wale badlaavon mein se ek hai. Phir dar se behes karne ke bajaay usse miliye: sudhaar se pehle judaav. Ek chhoti, garmjoshi bhari baat ("main yahaan hoon, tum surakshit ho, main jhaankta rahoonga"), ek raat ki batti, ya ek aaraam dene wali cheez, aadhi raat ki samjhaaish ya daant se kahin jaldi shareer ko shaant karti hai.

Chhote kadmon mein aage badhiye, raaton-raat chhalaangon mein nahi. Agar aapke bachche ko sone ke liye aapki maujoodgi chahiye, to apni maujoodgi ek baar mein sab hatane ke bajaay thodi-thodi peeche kijiye. Naram, dheere-dheere badhne wale tareeke jo bachche ko surakshit mehsoos karaate rahein, asardaar hain, aur jin adhyayanon ne bachchon ko saalon tak dekha, unmein bachche ko, uske mann ko, ya aapse uske rishte ko koi sthaayi nuksaan nahi mila. Bade bachchon aur kishoron ke liye, wahi dekhbhaal ek aisi yojana ban jati hai jis par aap saath milkar, din ke ujaale mein sehmat hote hain, na ki raat ke 11 baje.

Yahaan mushkil palon ke liye kuch saade bol hain, jinhe aap apni jeb mein rakh sakte hain.

• Darwaze par: "Ab sone ka samay hai. Mujhe tumse pyaar hai. Subah milte hain."
• Baar-baar aane par: apne bachche ko har baar shaanti aur chupchaap wapas le jaiye, har ek baar, har daur mein thodi kam baat ke saath. Oobaaoo aur andaaze mein aane wala hona hi asal mein kaam karta hai.
• Bade bachchon ke liye: yojana par din ke ujaale mein saath milkar sehmat hoiye, taaki yeh ek saajha faisla ho, na ki aadhi raat ki behes.

Chaliye is keemat ko imaandaari se batayein. Tooti raatein aapko thaka deti hain, aur ek thaka maata-pita zyada chidchida, zyada udaas, zyada khincha hua mehsoos karta hai, jitna woh kabhi chahta na hota. Woh thakan sach hai, aur use dhakelkar paar karna koi chhoti baat nahi. To jahaan aap kar sakein, apne saathi ya parivaar ke kisi sadasya ke saath raatein baantiye, apni khud ki thodi neend bhi bachaiye, aur ghar ke maanak kuch samay ke liye girne dijiye. Yahaan aaraam koi aish nahi hai. Yeh usi tareeke ka hissa hai jisse aapke bachche ki neend bhi behtar hoti hai.

Isi beech jode aur baaki bachchon ki bhi hifaazat kijiye. Neend ki ladaiyaan chupke se maata-pita ke beech tanaav mein badal sakti hain, aur bhai-behnon ko kinare kar diya-sa mehsoos kara sakti hain. Ise khulkar batana, aur bojh baantna, poore parivaar ko zyada sthir rakhta hai. Ekroopta ek team ka khel hai: bachche jaldi sambhalte hain jab bade ek hi shaant tareeke se jawaab dete hain, isliye tareeke par saath milkar sehmat hoiye, taaki ek maata-pita sakhti karne wala aur doosra naram sahaara na bane.

Yeh ek lambi daud hai, chhoti nahi, aur shuru se hi yeh maan lena madadgaar hota hai. Taraqqi shaayad hi kabhi seedhi rekha mein hoti hai. Achhi raaton ke daur ke baad ek buri raat naakaami nahi hai, aur yeh iska saboot nahi ki kuch bhi kaam nahi kar raha. Neend jab sambhal rahi hoti hai, to woh aise hi chalti hai. Apne saath narmi bartiye, dagmagaahaton ke liye taiyaar rahiye, aur baar-baar usi sthir dincharya par lautte rahiye.

Zyadatar baar, sthir, naram badlaav kaafi hote hain. Lekin doctor se tab miliye jab neend ki pareshani gambheer ho, jab yeh is kitaab ke badlaavon ke baawajood hafton tak bani rahe, ya jab yeh saaf taur par aapke bachche ke mann, padhai ya din ki zindagi ko neeche kheenchti ho. Ek jaanch kisi shaareerik wajah ko hata sakti hai aur bata sakti hai ki aage kya aata hai, aur koi gharelu guide iski jagah nahi le sakti.

Kuch baatein bina der kiye doctor ko batane laayak hain:

• Zor se kharraate ya haanfna, aur neend mein saans ka lamba ruk jana.
• Din mein bahut zyada neend aana jo hatti hi nahi.
• Neend ki pareshaniyon ke saath-saath aapke bachche mein saaf udaasi, dar, ya khud mein simatna.

Aapko yeh sab akele nahi thaamna hai, aur madad usse zyada paas hai jitni raat ke 3 baje lagti hai. Bharat mein ek muft, gopniya maansik swaasthya helpline hai jise aap kisi bhi samay bula sakte hain, din ho ya raat: Tele-MANAS 14416. Yeh aapke liye hai, chintit maata-pita ke liye, theek utna hi jitna aapke bachche ke liye.

Jo baat research baar-baar dikhata hai, usi par baat khatam karein. Neend lagbhag hamesha dheeraj aur sthir, naram sahaare se behtar hoti hai. Jaldi madad maangna ek taaqat hai, naakaami nahi. Aur aap pehle se hi parvaah wala, mushkil hissa kar rahe hain, yaani yeh seekhna ki madad kaise karein. Yeh kisi ek mushkil raat se zyada maayne rakhta hai.