Aapka bhai ya behen aur gehri udaasi

Jab koi bhai ya behen aisi udaasi mein jeeta hai jo uthne ka naam nahi leti, to ghar ek taraf jhuk jaata hai. Khaane ki mez chup ho jaati hai. Bani-banaayi yojnaayein radd hone lagti hain. Maa-baap ek bachche par zyada nazar rakhte hain, aur baaki parivaar jhukkar woh khaali jagahein bharne lagta hai. Usi jhukne mein kahin, ho sakta hai aap woh shaant rehne wale ban gaye hon, woh jo har cheez sambhaal leta hai, ya woh jo koi halchal nahi machaata, taaki maa-baap ko ek fikr kam rahe.

Yeh kaam kisi ne aapko zor se kehkar nahi saunpa. Aap ismein bas dhal gaye, kyunki kisi ko to yeh karna hi tha, aur aap wahaan maujood the. Jo bhoomika aapne chuni hi nahi, woh bhi ek sachcha bojh hai jise uthaana padta hai.

Aisi udaasi jo hafton tak bani rahe aur badal de ki koi kaise sota hai, khaata hai, aur chalta-phirta hai, woh ek sehat ki samasya hai, koi bura daur ya bura rawaiya nahi. Aapke bhai ya behen ke saath asal mein kya chal raha hai, yeh sirf ek doctor hi bata sakta hai. Yeh kitaab aapke bhai ya behen par koi label nahi lagaayegi. Yeh isliye hai taaki aap samajh sakein ki aap kiske saath jee rahe hain, aur use thoda halke se utha sakein.

Yahaan woh baat hai jo sab kuch dekhne ka nazariya badal deti hai. Ek gambheer, tiki rehne wali udaasi dimaag ki banaawat aur shareer mein chalti hai, ichhashakti mein nahi. Aapka bhai ya behen aalasi nahi hai, kamzor nahi hai, aur yeh isliye nahi chun raha ki parivaar ki zindagi aur mushkil bana de. Jab bistar se uthna namumkin lage, to yeh bimaari ka neeche ki or dabaana hai, waise hi jaise bukhaar dabaata hai, koi faisla nahi.

Aisi haalatein aksar parivaaron mein chalti hain. Kisi kareebi rishtedaar mein udaasi hona doosron ke liye khatra thoda badha deta hai, par badha hua khatra pakki baat nahi hoti, aur zyadatar rishtedaaron mein yeh kabhi ubharti hi nahi. So yeh aapke parivaar par koi shraap nahi hai, aur na hi yeh aapke bhavishya mein likhi hui baat hai.

Jab aapka bhai ya behen khud mein simat jaaye, yojnaayein radd kar de, ya aap par jhalla uthe, to aam taur par yeh bimaari ka use andar kheenchna hota hai, is baare mein koi sandesh nahi ki woh aapke baare mein kya mehsoos karta hai. Haalat ko insaan se alag karke dekhna kareeb-kareeb har doosri cheez se zyada madad karta hai: aap bimaari se kheej sakte hain aur phir bhi apne bhai ya behen se pyaar kar sakte hain. Dono ek saath sach ho sakte hain.

Ho sakta hai aap ghar mein itna kar rahe hon jitna aapke dost soch bhi na sakein. Maa-baap ko fikr mein dekhna. Sabse pehle bada hona, woh kaam apne oopar lena jo pehle badon ke hisse the. Is bojh ko naam dena khudgarzi nahi hai, yeh imaandaari hai, aur raahat yahin se shuru hoti hai.

Tulna dono taraf chubhti hai. Jab saara dhyaan aapke bhai ya behen ki or jaata hai, to ho sakta hai aap andekha mehsoos karein, aur phir achha karne par apraadhbodh se bhar jaayein, jabki ve joojh rahe hain. Dono hi bhaavnaayein aam hain, aur inmein se koi bhi aapko bura bhai ya behen nahi banaati.

Bahut se bhai-behen chupchaap bhavishya ke liye bhi khud ko taiyaar karte rehte hain, yeh sochte hue ki aage chalkar unke bhai ya behen ka khayaal kaun rakhega, jab maa-baap boodhe ho jaayenge ya na rahenge. Woh fikr asli hai, aur woh haqdaar hai ki kisi ke saamne zor se kahi jaaye, andhere mein akele na dhoyi jaaye.

Apraadhbodh, naaraazgi, udaasi, aur jab aapka bhai ya behen door ho to raahat tak, ye sab ek hi dil mein, ek hi waqt par reh sakte hain. Inmein se koi bhi bhaavna aapko bura bhai ya behen nahi banaati. Ye aapko ek aisa insaan banaati hain jo kuch bhaari, imaandaari se dho raha hai.

Gham ki bhi ijaazat hai. Aapko us bhai ya behen ki yaad aane ki ijaazat hai jise aap udaasi ke basne se pehle jaante the, woh jo aasaani se hansta tha ya bina kisi mehnat ke saath jud jaata tha. Unhe yaad karna bewafaai nahi hai. Yeh pyaar ka us badlaav ki shakl ko mehsoos karna hai.

Parivaar jaise jawaab deta hai, woh us pal mein jitna lagta hai usse zyada maayne rakhta hai. Tiki hui garmjoshi aalochana ya har waqt sambhal-sambhalkar chalne se zyada madad karti hai, aur lagaataar ka tanaav mushkil dinon ko sabke liye aur mushkil bana sakta hai. Aapko parivaar ko bachaane ke liye apni mushkilein chhupaani nahi padtein. Aapki apni bhalaai koi aisho-aaraam nahi jise parivaar ko pehle kamaana pade.

Chhoti, tiki hui maujoodgi har baar bade-bade bachaav se behtar hoti hai. Kuch theek kiye bina unke saath baithna, ek chhoti sair, ya ek seedha-saada message aksar salaah ya bhaashan se zyada madad karta hai. Aapko perfect baat kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Bas wahaan hona, halke se aur baar-baar, yahi madad hai.

Aap khayaal bhi rakh sakte hain aur apni apni zindagi bhi bacha sakte hain, apne dost, apni padhaai, apna aaraam. Hadein chhod dena nahi hoti, ve hi woh cheez hain jo aapko saath dete rehne deti hain. Aapko na kehne ka haq hai, chhutti wale din rakhne ka, aur jab bojh aapke akele ke liye bahut zyada ho jaaye to cheezen maa-baap ya doosre badon ko wapas saunpne ka.

Is haalat ke baare mein saath milkar, ek parivaar ki tarah seekhna bojh ko is tarah baant deta hai ki woh poora aap par nahi tikta. Jab har koi samajhta hai ki kya ho raha hai, to yeh kaam ek insaan ka chhupa hua bojh reh nahi jaata, aur kuch aisa ban jaata hai jise parivaar milkar uthaata hai.

Ilaaj kaam karta hai. Parivaar ka saath un cheezon ka hissa hai jo kisi udaasi wale insaan ko ubarne mein madad karti hain, so apne bhai ya behen ko narmi se kisi doctor ki or badhaana sachmuch saarthak hai, sirf khwaahish-bhari soch nahi. Aapko unhe akele manaana nahi hai, aur aapko woh banne ki zaroorat nahi jo ise theek kare. Unhe kisi aise tak pahuncha dena jo madad kar sake, yahi jeet hai.

Kuch chetaavni ki nishaaniyaan aisi hain jinmein madad abhi chaahiye, baad mein nahi. Inhe gambheerta se leejiye: marne ya kisi par bojh hone ki baat, apni cheezen baant dena, ya kisi bahut gehre daur ke baad achaanak ki shaanti. Agar aapka bhai ya behen shayad surakshit na ho, to unhe akela mat chhodiye, chupchaap un cheezon tak aasaan pahunch kam kar deejiye jinse ve khud ko nuqsaan pahuncha sakte hain, aur turant kisi bharosemand bade ya kisi doctor tak pahunchiye.

Aap bhi sahaare ke haqdaar hain. Kisi counsellor, kisi bharosemand shikshak, ya apne khud ke doctor se baat karna ek taaqat hai, naakaami nahi, aur ek bhai ya behen jo bojh dhota hai woh asli hai aur bahuton mein saajha hai, aapki koi niji kamzori nahi. Ise uthaane mein aapki kuch keemat gayi hai. Kisi ko ise uthaane mein madad karne dena hi woh tareeka hai jisse aap chalte rehte hain, aur wahi bhai ya behen bane rehte hain jo aap banna chaahte hain.