Kisi ko bipolar ke saath pyaar karna

Aap ye jhoole khud jee chuke hain. Kuch hafte chamkeele, tez, aur rukne ka naam na lene wale hote hain, yojanaon aur aisi urja se bhare jo kabhi khatam hi nahi hoti lagti. Doosre hafte dheeme, bhaari, aur door-door hote hain, jaise koi raushni bujh gayi ho. Is pattern ko naam dena raahat la sakta hai, kyunki naam ka matlab hai ki ise samjha ja sakta hai aur is par kaam kiya ja sakta hai, bas jhelte rehna nahi padta.

Sirf ek doctor hi pakke taur par keh sakta hai ki kya ho raha hai. Yeh kitaabcha aapke saathi par koi label nahi lagaata. Yeh aapko oonch-neech ke is pattern ko sochne ka ek tareeka deta hai, taaki aap iska saamna ek team ki tarah kar sakein, ek-doosre ke aamne-saamne khade hokar nahi.

Aap ise apne mann se nahi gadh rahe, aur na hi zaroorat se zyada soch rahe hain. Mood, neend, aur urja mein bade jhoole, jo dauron ki tarah aate-jaate hain, ek sacchi sehat ki samasya hain, na koi charitra ki kami aur na kuch aisa jo aapne paida kiya ho.

Ise padh lene se aap unke doctor ya unke therapist nahi ban jaate. Isse aap ek aise saathi bante hain jo thoda aur samajhta hai, aur yahi ghar laane ki sabse pyaari cheezon mein se ek hai.

Yahan do tarah ke mausam hain. Ek hai upar wala, chadha hua mausam, daudte khayaalon, neend ki bahut kam zaroorat, aur aisi badi yojanaon ke saath jo din se aage nikal sakti hain. Doosra hai neeche wala, bhaari mausam, bina urja, bina umeed, aur aise shareer ke saath jo jaise keechad mein se guzar raha ho. Inmein se koi bhi aisa mood nahi jise aapka saathi baithkar chunta hai.

Ab woh baat jo sab kuch badal deti hai, jab aap dono ise maan lete hain. Yeh bartaav bimaari ki aawaaz hai, is baare mein koi sandesh nahi ki ve aapse kitna pyaar karte hain. Jab ve neeche wale mausam mein peechhe hat jaate hain, to woh bimaari hai jo unhe andar kheench rahi hai, aapko thukraana nahi. Jab ve upar wali haalat mein chidchide ya beparwaah ho jaate hain, to woh bimaari hai jo gaadi chala rahi hai, asal mein ve nahi.

Upar wali haalat unhe shaandaar lag sakti hai aur aapko dara sakti hai. Chadhe hue mausam mein ve khud ko tez, kaabil, aur zinda mehsoos kar sakte hain, jabki aap kharch, chhootti neend, aur un yojanaon ko dekh rahe hote hain jo aapko chinta mein daalti hain. Yeh farq aam baat hai. Yahi ek wajah hai ki aap dono ek hi hafte ko itne alag-alag dekh paate hain.

Aapne ise paida nahi kiya aur aap iska ilaaj nahi kar sakte, par jo aap karte hain woh sach mein madad karta hai. Tika hua saath, ek shaant ghar, routine ko sambhaalna, aur unhe sahi dekhbhaal tak pahunchne mein madad karna, ye sab badalte hain ki bimaari apna raasta kaise chalti hai.

Yeh loop chupchaap banta hai aur aap mein se koi ise chunta nahi. Neeche wale mausam mein aap zaroorat se zyada sambhaalte hain, sab kuch karte hain, ghar uthaate hain, jabki aapka saathi us bhaaripan mein peechhe hat jaata hai. Upar wale mausam mein aap sambhalkar unhe dheema karne ki koshish karte hain jabki ve aur tez ho jaate hain. Aur yeh ghoomta hi rehta hai, aur aapko ek saathi se zyada ek manager jaisa mehsoos kara sakta hai.

Ande ke chhilkon par chalna aam baat hai aur thaka dene wali. Jab aapko kabhi pata hi nahi hota ki kal kaun-sa mausam laayega, to aap din bhar apne hi shabdon aur apne hi mood ko sambhaalte reh sakte hain, bas shaanti banaaye rakhne ke liye. Yeh chauksi ek saccha bojh hai, aur yeh acche dinon mein bhi aapko ghisti rehti hai.

Chadhe hue mood se bahas karna lagbhag kabhi kaam nahi karta, aur aksar baat aur garam kar deta hai. Upar wale mausam mein, tark takraakar laut aata hai. Bahas jeetne ki koshish use aur bhadkaati hai, aur ghar aalochna aur garmi se bhar jaata hai jo kisi ke kaam nahi aati. Raasta koi behtar bahas nahi hai. Raasta hai ek kadam peechhe hatna aur mausam shaant hone par milkar us par aana.

Loop ko khulkar, saath milkar aur ek shaant pal mein naam dena, isse aap isse baahar nikalte hain. Jab aap dono is pattern ko bimaari ki tarah dekh paate hain, aap ek-doosre ko dosh dena band kar dete hain aur kandhe se kandha milaakar iska saamna karne lagte hain.

Neend ko aise sambhaaliye jaise woh ghar ka dhuaan bataane wala alarm ho. Tooti ya ghatti neend aksar pehli nishani hoti hai ki koi upar wala mausam aa raha hai. Ek tiki hui roz ki lay, samay par khaana, aur sone se pehle thamne ka waqt sach mein bachaav deta hai, aur yeh mazboot research se samarthit hai, bas aam samajh ki baat nahi.

Haalaat shaant hon tab ek saajha pehle se chetaane wali yojna banaaiye. Milkar un chhoti nishaniyon par sehmat ho jaaiye ki koi upar ya neeche wala mausam shuru ho raha hai, aur yeh ki aap mein se har koi kya karega, taaki aap mausam ko ek team ki tarah padhein, bajaay iske ki jab woh takraaye tab us par jhagdein.

Saath bane rehna theek karne se bada hai. Neeche wale mausam mein, unke saath baithna aur yeh kehna ki aap yahin hain, hal ki ek lambi soochi se behtar kaam karta hai. Chhote nyote dabaav se behtar kaam karte hain, ek chhoti sair, ek cup chai, koi badi maang nahi. Jo ulta padta hai woh hai "sambhal jaao", ya tab unhe samjhaakar utaarne ki koshish karna jab ve upar wali haalat mein hon. Ye aalochna ki tarah utarte hain, aur ghar mein aalochna ka rishta zyada dauron se juda hai, kam se nahi.

Sabse achhi jaanchi-parkhi madad hai, ilaaj ke saath-saath milkar seekhna. Is haalat ke baare mein parivaar ko di gayi jaankari dauron aur aspataal mein rukne ko ghataati aur saathi par bojh ko halka karti dikhi hai. To ek jode ke roop mein seekhna khud ek tareeka hai, bas peechhe ki padhaai nahi. Aap unke ilaaj mein sirf baithe hue sawaari nahi hain, aur ve koi mareez nahi jinhe aap sambhaalte hain. Aap do log hain jo ek hi bimaari ko seekh rahe hain.

Khaali pyaale se aap kisi ko kuch nahi de sakte. Is haalat wale logon ke saathi aur dekhbhaal karne wale ek saccha, naapa ja sakne wala bojh uthaate hain, aur lagbhag aadhe tak kisi na kisi mod par apne hi mann ke udaas hone ki baat karte hain. Apna khayaal rakhna swaarth nahi hai. Yahi aapko baar-baar saath nibhaate rehne ke kaabil banaaye rakhta hai, aur lambi daud mein yahi unhe aapse sabse zyada chaahiye.

Apni zindagi ko bhi chalte rehne deejiye. Aapki dostiyaan, aapka kaam, aapka aaraam, aur ek cheez jo bas aapki apni hai, ye faaltu cheezein nahi hain. Yahi poore rishte ko sirf bimaari ke baare mein ban jaane se rokti hain. Jiski apni ek bhari-poori zindagi ho, woh saathi zyada tika hua hota hai, banta hua nahi.

Hadein pyaar ka kaam hain, koi dhoka nahi. Yeh kehna jaayaz hai ki aap kya kar sakte hain aur kya nahi, khaaskar paise, suraksha, aur neend ko lekar. Upar wale mausam mein, kharch ki hadon par pehle se sehmat ho jaana bachaav hai, kaaboo nahi. Ek had rishte ko bachaati hai, use khatam nahi karti.

Aap saathi hain, therapist nahi aur ilaaj nahi. Aapka kaam hai pyaar karna, dhyaan dena, aur unhe sacchi dekhbhaal tak pahunchne mein madad karna, na ki akele poori dekhbhaal ki vyawastha ban jaana. Ek bhare-poore parivaar mein bojh kayi guna ho sakta hai, jab rishtedaar umeedon ya ilzaamon ka dher laga dein. Aapko har baatcheet jeetni nahi hai. Ek chhoti, tiki hui pankti madad karti hai: "Hum is par saath milkar kaam kar rahe hain, ek doctor ki madad se."

Kuch nishaniyan kehti hain ki abhi sambhaalo, baad mein nahi. Upar wale mausam mein, in par nazar rakhiye, dinon tak bina neend ke rehna, beparwaah kharch, ya tez, jokhim wale faisle. Neeche wale mausam mein, in par nazar rakhiye, khud ko bojh bataana, apni cheezein de dena, ya yeh kehna ki aage jeene ka koi matlab nahi. Ye aise mood nahi jinhe beet jaane dena hai. Ye jaldi madad paane ki wajahein hain.

Agar aapko kabhi unki suraksha ki chinta ho, to use gambheerta se leejiye aur unhe akela mat chhodiye. Saaf aur narmi se poochhiye ki kya ve apni jaan khatm karne ke baare mein soch rahe hain. Poochhne se yeh khayaal unke mann mein nahi aata. Yeh ek darwaaza kholta hai aur ek jaan bacha sakta hai.

Tele-MANAS ko 14416 par phone keejiye, kisi bhi waqt, din ho ya raat. Yeh Bharat ki muft rashtriya maansik sehat helpline hai, aur yeh ek saathi ke taur par aapke liye bhi hai, sirf us insaan ke liye nahi jo bimaar hai. Aap ise apni chinta aur apni raah ke liye phone kar sakte hain, bas kisi aapatkaal mein hi nahi.

Unhe doctor tak pahunchaaiye. Dauron ke beech, sabse tika hua kaam jo aap kar sakte hain, woh hai unhe sahi ilaaj se jude rehne mein madad karna, mulaaqaatein nibhaana, aur mausam palatne lage tab jaldi haath badhaana.

Aapko yeh sab akele nahi uthaana hai, aur yeh kabhi aapke akele uthaane ke liye bana hi nahi tha. Sabse mazboot kaam jo aap kar sakte hain, woh chuppi mein aur zyada uthaana nahi hai, balki jaldi, milkar madad ke liye haath badhaana, aur badhaate rehna hai.