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Sadma aur uske baadKisi chot pahunchane wali ghatna ke baad
Kisi daraawni ya gehri chot pahunchane wali ghatna ke baad ki zindagi ke liye ek garm guide: kyun aapki pratikriyaayein samaanya hain aur kamzori nahi, sadma kya karta hai, kya sach mein madad karta hai, aur raahat kaise aati hai.
Aapki pratikriyaayein bilkul saamaanya hain
Aapke saath koi daraawni ya gehri chot pahunchane wali baat hui. Uske baad se aap jo mehsoos kar rahe hain, wah ek asaamaanya ghatna par ek saamaanya pratikriya hai. Yah na kamzori hai, na paagalpan, aur na hi aapke charitra mein koi kami. Aisi kisi mushkil ghatna ke baad ke hafton mein ye pratikriyaayein aam hain, aur sahi madad se ye behtar ho sakti hain.
Shaayad aapse kaha gaya ho ki bas aage badh jao, mazboot bano, is baat ko man se nikaal do. Shaayad aapne yahi baatein khud se bhi kahi hon, aur is par sharmindagi mehsoos ki ho ki aap ise yunhi band nahi kar pa rahe. Sach isse kahin zyada naram hai. Jab kisi insaan ke saath koi bahut bhaari baat hoti hai, to man aur shareer dono pratikriya karte hain. Yah pratikriya aap mein koi kharaabi nahi hai.
Kisi daraawni ya gehri chot pahunchane wali ghatna ke baad ke dinon aur hafton mein aisi kuchh pratikriyaayein saath rehna aam baat hai. Ye is baat ke nishaan hain ki aapne kuchh bahut mushkil jhela hai, is baat ka saboot nahi ki aap jaise hain usmein kuchh galat hai. Aapke saath jo hua wah asli tha, aur aapki pratikriyaayein us par ek saamaanya jawaab hain, kamzori ki nishaani nahi.
Aur jaanna chahein to
Ek puraani aur beraham soch hai ki mazboot logon par buri baaton ka asar nahi hota, aur agar aap hil gaye to aap kisi tarah kamtar hain. Yah bilkul sach nahi hai. Fauji, doctor, haadson, hinsa aur nuksaan se guzre log, har tarah ke shaant aur kaabil insaan, sab in pratikriyaaon ko jhelte hain. Kisi bhaari baat se asar lena insaan hone ka hissa hai, himmat ki kami nahi. Yah samajh lena bahaana banana nahi hai. Yah dobaara thoda sambhalne ki taraf pehla saccha kadam hai.
Yah baat ek baar, seedhe-seedhe, khud se kahiye, bhale hi ajeeb lage: mere saath jo hua wah asli tha, aur uske baad se main jaisa mehsoos kar raha hoon wah ek saamaanya pratikriya hai, kamzori nahi. Dhyaan dijiye ki yah baat un baaton ke muqaable kaisi lagti hai jo shaayad aapse kahi gayi hon, ya aapne khud se kahi hon. Aapko ise ek aisi cheez maanne ka poora haq hai jisse aap theek ho sakte hain, chhupaane wali koi galti nahi.
Jab alarm bajta hi rahe
Kisi mushkil ghatna ke baad shareer ka alarm chaalu hi reh sakta hai, jaise khatra abhi bhi yahin ho. Isse wah ghatna baar-baar man mein laut sakti hai. Har waqt bechain aur tana hua rehna, zara-si aawaz par chaunk jaana, har us cheez se bachte rehna jo uski yaad dilaaye, aur andar se sunn ya kata-kata mehsoos karna bhi ho sakta hai. Baar-baar neend tootna, chhoti-chhoti baat par gussa, aur man ka udaas rehna bhi aksar saath aate hain.
Aapke shareer mein ek alarm bana hua hai jo khatre mein aapko bachaane ke liye hai. Kisi daraawne pal mein yah aapko dar aur taiyaari se bhar deta hai taaki aap bach saken. Sadme ke baad yah alarm chaalu haalat mein atak sakta hai, aur khatra guzar jaane ke bahut baad tak bajta rehta hai, jaise khatra abhi bhi kamre mein maujood ho.
Yah kuchh alag-alag tarikon se saamne aa sakta hai. Wah ghatna bin bulaaye laut sakti hai, saaf yaadon mein, achaanak ke flashback mein, ya aise bure sapnon mein jo us din jitne asli lagein. Aap har waqt bechain, chaukanna, aur chhoti-si aawaz par chaunkne wale mehsoos kar sakte hain. Aap khud ko logon, jagahon, ya har us cheez se door le jaate paayenge jo wah baat yaad dila de. Aur aap ajeeb tarah se sunn, sapaat, ya apne aaspaas ke logon aur zindagi se kata hua mehsoos kar sakte hain. Baar-baar neend tootna, chhoti baat par bhadak jaana, aur ek bhaari udaasi bhi aksar saath chali aati hai. Ye koi bewajah ki kharaabiyaan nahi hain; yah ek alarm hai jo ab bhi aapko bachaane ki koshish kar raha hai.
- Koi yaad dilaane wali cheez saamne aati hai, chaahe chhoti hi kyon na ho.
- Dar aise laut aata hai jaise khatra abhi yahin ho.
- Aap usse bach nikalte hain, jisse thodi raahat milti hai.
- Par alarm kabhi shaant nahi hota, to agli yaad utni hi zor se lagti hai.
Aur jaanna chahein to
Inmein se koi bhi pratikriya iska matlab nahi ki aap toot gaye hain ya paagal ho rahe hain. Jo man kisi buri ghatna ko baar-baar dohraata hai, wah anaadi tarike se use samajhne ki koshish kar raha hota hai. Jo shareer har waqt tana rehta hai, wah aapko surakshit rakhne ki koshish kar raha hota hai. Sunnpan wah tarika hai jisse man un bhaavnaaon ki aawaz dheemi kar deta hai jo jhelne ke liye had se zyada thin. Khatre ke us pal mein inmein se har ek ka matlab tha. Dikkat sirf itni hai ki khatra jaane ke baad bhi ye tike reh gaye hain, aur theek yahi hissa hai jismein madad ho sakti hai.
Yah yunhi kyon nahi mitta
Ek aam yaad man mein ek khatm ho chuki, beeti hui baat ke taur par rakh di jaati hai. Dardnaak ghatna ki yaad aksar ek kacche, adhoore roop mein jama ho jaati hai, isliye wah baar-baar aise chali aati hai jaise abhi bhi ho rahi ho. Yaad dilaane wali cheezon se bachna us pal mein raahat deta hai. Par yah chupke se yaad ko ataka hua aur alarm ko chaalu banaaye rakhta hai.
Zyaadatar yaadein samay ke saath baith jaati hain. Man unhein ek saaf mohar lagaakar rakh deta hai: yah hua tha, yah khatm ho gaya, yah beete kal ki baat hai. Dardnaak ghatna ki yaad aksar is tarah nahi rakhi jaati. Wah bina us mohar ke, kacchi aur adhoori jama ho jaati hai. Isliye wah baar-baar vartmaan mein toot kar chali aati hai, jaise khatra abhi isi waqt yahin ho. Yahi wajah hai ki ek gandh, ek aawaz, ya ek taarikh pal bhar mein poori baat ko kheench laati hai.
Pratikriyaayein ghatna ke turant baad shuru ho sakti hain, ya ye shaant rehkar mahinon, yahaan tak ki saalon baad ubhar sakti hain. Kuchh logon mein ye apne aap halki ho jaati hain. Kuchh logon mein ye ek lagaataar bani rehne wali dikkat ban jaati hain jo rozmarra ki zindagi mushkil kar deti hai. Inhein sabse zyada jo cheez banaaye rakhti hai wah samajh mein aane wali aur bahut insaani hai: taalna. Yaad dilaane wali cheezon se door rehna us pal mein sacchi raahat deta hai, par yah alarm ko kabhi yah seekhne hi nahi deta ki khatra guzar chuka hai, isliye yaad kacchi reh jaati hai aur dar taiyaar baitha rehta hai. Yaad dilaane wali cheezon se bachna ek pal ke liye aapko shaant karta hai, par chupke se dar ko zinda rakhta hai.
Ek hafte tak, bina kisi zor-zabardasti ke, bas dhyaan dijiye ki aapka man kin cheezon se bachta hai. Koi gali, koi baat, koi tasveer, kisi tarah ki baat-cheet. Aap abhi inmein se kisi ka saamna khud ko karne nahi keh rahe, bas is taalne ki shakl dekh rahe hain. Ek doctor ya counsellor "main shahar ke us hisse ke paas nahi jaa paata" ke saath kahin zyada kuchh kar sakte hain, "bas man bhaari rehta hai" ke muqaable.
Sach mein kya madad karta hai
Madad asli hai aur kaam karti hai. Saabit raasta yah nahi ki daant bheenchkar ise daba do. Yah hai ki pehle surakshit aur sambhla hua mehsoos karo, phir khud ko vartmaan mein tikaana seekho. Wahaan se, taalne ke bajaaye yaad aur yaad dilaane wali cheezon ka thoda-thoda karke saamna karo. Sadme par kendrit baat-cheet wali therapy yahi karti hai. Kuchh logon ke liye doctor saath mein dawa bhi jod sakte hain.
Sadme ke liye sabse asardaar ilaaj sadme par kendrit baat-cheet wali therapy hain, aur ye ek aise tarike se kaam karti hain jo shaayad aapko hairaan kar de. Ye aapse yah nahi kahtin ki sabse bure din ko baar-baar jiyo jab tak aap sunn na ho jaayein. Ye man ko aakhirkaar us yaad ko ek khatm ho chuki baat ke taur par rakhne mein madad karti hain. Aur ye aapko yaad dilaane wali cheezon ka dheere-dheere, chhote-chhote kadmon mein saamna karne mein madad karti hain, taaki alarm aakhir mein yah seekh sake ki khatra guzar chuka hai.
Inmein se do therapy ke peeche sabse mazboot saboot hain. Ek sadme par kendrit baat-cheet wali therapy hai jo yaad aur usse jude vichaaron par kaam karti hai. Doosri, jise EMDR kehte hain, bataaye tarike se aankhein hilaakar dimaag ko us yaad ko man mein dobaara se suljhaane mein madad karti hai. Dhyaan se ki gayi jaanch-parakh mein saamne aaya ki dono, bina kisi ilaaj ke muqaable, sadme ki pratikriyaaon ko saaf taur par kam karti hain. Yah kaam lagbhag hamesha pehle suraksha aur sambhalne se shuru hota hai, kyonki jab alarm cheekh raha ho tab aap kisi yaad ko suljha nahi sakte. Aap yaad ko dabaate nahi; aap apne man ki madad karte hain ki wah aakhirkaar use ek khatm ho chuki baat ke taur par rakh de.
- Sabse pehle, vartmaan mein surakshit aur sambhla hua mehsoos kijiye.
- Alarm bajne par khud ko tikaane ke tarike seekhiye.
- Yaad aur yaad dilaane wali cheezon ka thoda-thoda karke saamna kijiye.
- Zindagi ke jin hisson se aap peechhe hat gaye the, unmein dheere-dheere lautiye.
Anil 38 saal ke hain aur Belagavi mein kaam karte hain. Do saal pehle ek sadak haadse ke baad ve har horn par chaunk jaate, jis raaste par haadsa hua tha wahaan gaadi nahi chala paate, aur apne hi parivaar se ajeeb tarah se door ho gaye the. Unhein lagta tha ki ise na bhula paane ki wajah se ve bas kamzor hain. Jo badla wah na to bhavya tha aur na hi achaanak. Madad se unhone pehle khud ko sambhalna seekha, phir taalne ke bajaaye chhote, sahaare wale kadmon mein us yaad aur us raaste ki taraf laute. Shuruaati hafte ubad-khaabad rahe. Par dheere-dheere horn ka matlab khatra rehna band ho gaya, wah raasta phir se bas ek raasta ban gaya, aur unhone khud ko un logon ke paas lautte mehsoos kiya jinse ve pyaar karte hain.
Aur jaanna chahein to
Dawa bhi madad ka hissa ho sakti hai, soch-samajhkar istemaal ki jaaye to. Jab sadme ki pratikriyaayein bahut bhaari hon, ya jab ve ek gehri udaasi ya lagaataar ghabraahat ko badhaayein, to doctor therapy ke saath-saath goliyaan dene par vichaar kar sakte hain, uske faaydon aur nuksaan ko aapke saath baat karte hue. Dawa ek aisi cheez hai jis par doctor se baat ki jaaye, na ki is par sharm karne wali baat hai, aur na hi ise khud se shuru karne wali. Zyaadatar logon ke liye tikne wala badlaav therapy se aata hai, aur jahaan zaroorat ho wahaan dawa sahaare ke taur par saath rehti hai.
- Sabse pehle, vartmaan mein surakshit aur sambhla hua mehsoos karna.
- Sadme par kendrit baat-cheet wali therapy jo aapko use suljhaane mein madad kare.
- Yaad dilaane wali cheezon se bachne ke bajaaye dheere-dheere unka saamna karna.
- Doctor ki madad, aur zaroorat ho to dawa bhi.
Yaad
Theek hona sab-kuchh-ya-kuchh-nahi wali baat nahi hai, aur ek mushkil din us zameen ko nahi chheenta jo aapne paayi hai. Hunar yah hai ki surakshit mehsoos karte rahein, thoda-thoda karke cheezon ka saamna karte rahein, aur sambhle hue dinon ko judne dein, bhale hi koi ek din aapko peechhe dhakel de. Narmi se aur sambhalkar, apni raftaar se, zor-zabardasti karne se behtar hai.
Kab madad maangein
Kabhi-kabhi pratikriyaayein bahut bhaari hoti hain. Kabhi-kabhi ye hafton tak tikti hain aur aapke din ghis daalti hain. Kabhi-kabhi sadma man ki udaasi, bhaari ghabraahat, ya takleef bhulaane ke liye sharab peene ko badhaane lagta hai. Inmein se kuchh bhi madad maangne ka ishaara hai, akele jhelte rehne ka nahi. Ilaaj kaam karta hai, aap bina kisi pakke nidaan ke bhi madad pa sakte hain, aur jaldi madad maangna sabse achha mauka deta hai.
Kisi daraawni baat ke baad kuchh mushkil hafton ka guzarna insaan hone ka hissa hai. Madad maangna tab kaam ka hai jab pratikriyaayein bahut bhaari hon, ya jab ye hafton tak jam jaayein aur aapke din, aapki neend, aapka kaam, aur logon se aapki nazdeeki chalaane lagein. Aksar sadma akela nahi aata. Yah ek aisi udaasi ko badha sakta hai jo hatti nahi, ek lagaataar bhaari ghabraahat ko, ya sab kuchh bhulaane ya sunn karne ke liye sharab ki taraf khinchaav ko. Aur inmein se har ek sadme ko waapas badha sakti hai.
Aap ise chupchaap jhelne wale akele insaan se bahut door hain. Bharat mein, zyaadatar bade log jinhein man ki sehat ki dekhbhaal se faayda ho sakta hai, unhein yah kabhi mil hi nahi paati. Madad maangna is baat ki nishaani nahi ki aap naakaam hue hain; yah to sabse aam adhoori zarooraton mein se ek hai.
Ek doctor ya counsellor poori tasveer dekh sakte hain, sadme ka ilaaj kar sakte hain, aur yah bhi dekh sakte hain ki kahin andar koi aur cheez to dekhbhaal nahi maang rahi, aur jitni jaldi aap madad maangein, utne achhe aasaar. Madad ke laayak hone ke liye aapko kisi thappe ya pakke nidaan ki zaroorat nahi, aur aapko pehle kisi tootne ki had tak pahunchna bhi zaroori nahi. Aap sahi madad bina kisi pakke nidaan ke bhi pa sakte hain, aur ghatna ke saalon baad bhi.
Agar kabhi bojh bahut bhaari lage
Agar kabhi aapko lage ki yah bojh jhelne ke liye had se zyada hai, ya man mein aise khayaal aayein ki zindagi jeene laayak nahi, to kripya turant madad maangiye. Aapko yah akele nahi uthaana hai, aur madad se yah behtar ho sakta hai. Aap Tele-MANAS, muft rashtriya helpline par, 14416 number par, din ho ya raat, kabhi bhi call kar sakte hain. Neeche diye gaye sankat card mein aur bhi log hain jin tak aap pahunch sakte hain.
Ek sawaal likhkar rakh lijiye jo aap kisi doctor ya counsellor se poochhna chaahenge, aur use apne phone mein rakhiye. Kuchh aisa jaise "haadse ke baad se mujhe neend nahi aati aur main gaadi chalaane se bachta hoon, kya madad kar sakta hai?" Sawaal taiyaar hone se pehli mulaaqaat kahin aasaan ho jaati hai, aur pehli mulaaqaat hi mushkil wali hoti hai.
Aap toote hue nahi hain
Aapke saath jo hua wah kuchh aisa hai jisse aap guzar rahe hain, yah aap nahi hain. Sadma gambhir hai par iska ilaaj hai, aur yah madad se bahut achhi tarah jawaab de sakta hai, saalon baad bhi. Theek hona aapki apni raftaar se aata hai. Peechhe hatna raaste ka hissa hai, naakaami nahi. Aur kai Bhartiya parivaaron mein iske aaspaas ki chuppi aapke baare mein sach nahi hai.
Bahut se logon ke liye sabse mushkil hissa dar khud nahi hota. Yah wah chupchaap baithi soch hoti hai ki jo hua usse hil jaana unhein kamzor, toota hua, ya kisi tarah kharaab bana deta hai. Yah soch samajh mein aati hai, aur yah galat hai. Sadma ek gambhir par theek ho sakne wali cheez hai jisse aap guzar rahe hain, na ki aapki taaqat ya aapki keemat par koi faisla, aur khud ko phir se sambhla hua mehsoos karna ek aisi cheez hai jo insaan dobaara pa sakta hai, ghatna ke bahut samay baad bhi.
Theek hona dheere-dheere aur aksar seedhe-saade tarike se aata hai. Zyaadatar log jinhein sahi madad milti hai, ve sach mein zyada sambhle hue mehsoos karte hain, aur bahut se log dobaara poori tarah apne jaise mehsoos karte hain, jo hua uske saalon baad bhi. Kuchh logon ke liye, koi mushkil daur baad mein phir laut aata hai, kisi tanaav bhare mahine mein ya kisi dukhad barsi ke paas, aur wah bhi raaste ka hissa hai, is baat ka saboot nahi ki aap naakaam hue hain. Peechhe hatna raaste ka ek hissa hai jise apne sahaaron ke saath jhel jaana hai, iska ant nahi. Kai Bhartiya parivaaron mein is tarah ke dard ko kuchh nahi samajhkar taal diya jaata hai, ya chupchaap jhel liya jaata hai, aur wah chuppi sabse bhaari usi insaan par padti hai jo isse guzar raha hota hai. Wah chuppi aapke baare mein sach nahi hai.
Wahi man jisne khatre ke liye khud ko taiyaar rakhna seekha tha, wah suraksha, sahaare aur samay ke saath yah seekh sakta hai ki ab wah phir se surakshit hai. Yah kam hi ek hi baar mein hota hai, aur lagbhag hamesha kai aam, dheere-dheere zyada sambhalte dinon mein hota hai.
Aur jaanna chahein to
Jin sahaaron ne madad ki unhein banaaye rakhiye, jo din aapko peechhe dhakel dein unhein maaf kar dijiye, aur phir se narmi se shuru kijiye. Kisi mushkil hafte ke baad apni sambhalne wali aadtein dobaara utha lena naye sire se shuru karna nahi hai. Yahi asli kaam hai, aur sach mein theek hona zyaadatar aisa hi dikhta hai. Khud ko phir se sambhla hua mehsoos karna kisi ek perfect din mein nahi, balki kai aam dinon mein lautta hai, jinmein se zyaadatar shaant hote hain, aur kai surakshit mehsoos karne aur sahaare ki taraf haath badhaane se bante hain.
Aapke saath
Agar kabhi yah bojh bahut bhaari lage, ya man mein aise khayaal aayein ki zindagi jeene laayak nahi, to kripya madad maangiye, akele jhelte mat rahiye. Aap Tele-MANAS, muft rashtriya helpline par, 14416 number par, din ho ya raat, kabhi bhi call kar sakte hain. Neeche diya sankat card mein aur bhi log hain jin tak aap pahunch sakte hain.
Is hafte, apne liye ek chhota-sa sahaara taiyaar kijiye, koi insaan jisse aap baat kar sakein, khud ko tikaane ki koi shaant aadat, ya wahi ek sawaal doctor ke liye taiyaar. Use ek hafte tak banaaye rakhiye, aur dhyaan dijiye ki thoda-sa sambhal jaana bhi kya karta hai.
Yeh jaankari kahan se hai
Yeh guide samajhne mein madad karti hai. Yeh nidaan nahin hai. Uske liye doctor se milein.