Badnaami aur samaaj
Hum maansik bimaari ko kaise dekhte hainUbarna sach mein hota hai
Maansik haalat ke saath achhi tarah jeene wale logon ki asli aawaazein: ubarne ka asal matlab, yeh saboot ki zyadatar log behtar hote hain, aur insaan ko dekhna, label ko nahi.
Jo ise jee rahe hain, unhi ki suniye
Ubarna sach mein hota hai, aur yeh aam baat hai. Bahut se log jo kisi man ki sehat ki samasya ke saath jeete hain, ve kaam bhi karte hain aur padhai bhi. Ve bachche paalte hain, shaadi karte hain, aur dostiyan nibhaate hain. Ve apne gharwalon aur apne mohalle ko bahut kuch dete hain. Unki zindagi us haalat se kahin badi hoti hai, jo ve apne saath liye chalte hain.
Yeh yaqeen karne ka sabse aasan tarika ki ubarna mumkin hai, yahi hai ki aap kisi aise insaan se milein jo ise jee raha ho. Poster mein chhapa koi hero nahi. Bas ek aam insaan, jo apni aam zindagi aage badha raha hai, aur saath hi kisi haalat ke saath bhi jee raha hai. To kisi bhi tathya se pehle, yahan kuch aisi hi asli zindagiyan hain, seedhe-saadhe shabdon mein.
Main phir se apne kaam par laut aaya hoon. Kuch hafte baaqiyon se zyada bhaari hote hain, aur maine seekh liya hai ki bhaari hafton ko jaldi pehchaan loon. Par main apna kaam karta hoon, main usmein achha hoon, aur zyadatar din to aapko pata hi nahi chalega.
Ek aadmi hai jo saal bhar chup ho gaya. Phir vah dheere-dheere apni dukaan par lauta, aur ab apne grahkon ki seva waise hi karta hai jaise hamesha karta tha. Ek naujawan aurat hai jisne ek lambe thahraav ke baad apni padhai poori ki. Vah ab apne parivaar mein degree paane wali pehli insaan hai. Ek maa hai jo, thodi madad se, ek-ek aam subah karke apne bachchon aur apni rasoi mein laut aayi. Inmein se koi bhi theek hokar koi alag insaan nahi ban gaya. Unhein sahi madad mili, aur unhein apni zindagi waapas mil gayi.
Kaam wahi jagah hai jahan bahut se log chupchaap apne aap par bharosa phir se banate hain. Naukri kisi haalat ko theek nahi karti. Par kaam ka hona, kahin jaane ki jagah hona, aur kisi kaam ko achhe se karne ka bharosa milna, ye sab milkar din ko ek shakl dete hain. Log apni haalat sambhaalte hue har tarah ki naukriyan karte hain. Aksar, unke aas-paas kisi ko pata tak nahi chalta. Vah haalat unki zindagi ka ek hissa hai. Vah unke poore hone ki poori kahani nahi hai.
Kisi haalat ke saath jeena kisi ko achha maa ya baap hone se, ek tike hue saathi hone se, ya vah insaan hone se nahi rokta jis par poora parivaar tika rehta hai. Bahut se log bachche paalte hain, apni shaadi nibhaate hain aur milkar ek ghar sambhaalte hain, aur saath hi apne man ki sehat ka bhi dhyan rakhte hain. Ve yeh theek waise hi karte hain jaise parivaar shugar (madhumeh) ya dil ki kisi takleef ko sambhaalte hain: dhyan se, sahaare ke saath, aur ise koi sharm ki chhupaane wali baat banaaye bina.
Ubarna ek disha hai, koi aakhiri rekha nahi
Ubarne ka matlab hamesha poori tarah theek ho jaana, ya har nishaani ka hamesha ke liye chale jaana nahi hota. Zyadatar logon ke liye iska matlab hai kisi haalat ko sambhaalte hue ek ummeed bhari, maayne wali zindagi banana, aisi jiski dor ve khud thaamte hain. Yeh waqt ke saath badhti hai. Yeh koi ek chamkili subah nahi hai jismein aap ekdam jaag uthte hain.
Log aksar "ubarna" shabd sunkar poori tarah theek hone ki tasveer bana lete hain: haalat chali jaaye, aur zindagi bilkul waisi hi laut aaye jaisi pehle thi. Kuch logon ke liye yeh aisa dikh bhi sakta hai. Par zyadatar ke liye, iska matlab kuch zyada thahra hua aur zyada asli hota hai. Iska matlab hai kisi haalat ke saath achhi tarah jeena, theek waise hi jaise bahut se log dame (asthma) ke saath ya kisi lambe chalne wali shareer ki bimari ke saath achhi tarah jeete hain.
Jaanchne-parakhne walon ne bahut se logon ko yeh bataate hue suna ki ubarna unhein kaisa mehsoos hua. Baar-baar wahi baatein saamne aayin. Doosron se jude hone ka ehsaas. Ummeed ko thaame rakhna. Yeh ehsaas ki us haalat se pare bhi aap ek poore insaan hain. Maayne aur maqsad ka milna. Aur apni zindagi par thoda apna zor mehsoos hona. Ubarna ek disha hai jis par aap chalte hain, koi rekha nahi jise ek baar paar kiya aur baat khatm.
- Jude hone ka ehsaas: aapke aas-paas log hon, aap akele iska saamna na karein.
- Ummeed ko thaame rakhna, un sapaat dinon mein bhi.
- Phir se apne aap jaisa hona: us haalat se badhkar, ek poora insaan.
- Maayne, aur apni zindagi par apne zor ka ehsaas.
Aur jaanna chahein to
Isiliye "kya aap ab poori tarah theek ho gaye" peeche bhaagne ke liye galat sawaal hai. Kisi ka ek hafta ab bhi bhaari ja sakta hai. Ve ab bhi purani nishaaniyon ko lautte dekh sakte hain, aur phir bhi pakke taur par ubarne ki raah par ho sakte hain. Ubarna poori zindagi ki shakl ke baare mein hai, har din har nishaani ke na hone ke baare mein nahi. Ise sirf nishaaniyon se naapna asal baat se chook jaata hai. Behtar sawaal yeh hai: kya vah insaan aisi zindagi jee raha hai jo uske liye kuch maayne rakhti hai.
Zyadatar log behtar ho jaate hain
Ubarna niyam hai, koi birla apvaad nahi. Aam man ki sehat ki samasyaon ke liye aisa ilaaj maujood hai jo kaam karta hai. Sahi sahaare ke saath, zyadatar log behtar ho jaate hain. Aur kisi samaj ki in haalaton ke baare mein soch badalne ke sabse mazboot tarikon mein se ek bas yahi hai ki log unse milein jo inhein jee rahe hain.
Ise saaf-saaf kehna zaroori hai, kyunki sharm gharwalon ko yeh bhula deti hai: aam man ki sehat ki samasyaon ke liye aisa ilaaj maujood hai jo kaam karta hai. Baatcheet wali therapy, parivaar aur samaj ka sahaara, us haalat ke baare mein jaankari, aur rozmarra ki zindagi phir se banane mein madad. Kuch logon ke liye, doctor ke saath milkar chuni gayi dawa. Sahi sahaare ke saath, zyadatar log behtar ho jaate hain. Isiliye ubarne ko sabse achha yahi samjha jaata hai ki yeh chalne ki ummeed ki jaane wali disha hai, koi khushqismat apvaad nahi.
Ek doosri, zyada chupchaap baat bhi saamne aayi jo utni hi maayne rakhti hai. Jo log kisi haalat ke saath achhi tarah jeete hain, unse milna aur unhein sunna soch badalne wali sabse mazboot cheezon mein se ek hai. Jab log sach mein kisi aise insaan se milte hain jo kisi haalat ke saath jee raha ho, to unka dar naram pad jaata hai. Doori banaaye rakhne ki unki chaahat simat jaati hai. Badnaami kam karne ke saare tarikon mein se, ek insaan ka doosre insaan se seedhe milna sabse zyada karta hai, kam se kam paas ke samay mein to zaroor.
- Un logon se asli kahaniyan sunna jo kisi haalat ke saath jee rahe hain.
- Kisi se aamne-saamne milna, baraabari ke saath, kisi "case" ki tarah nahi.
- Kam dar, aur doori banaaye rakhne ki kam chaahat.
- Aisa ilaaj jo kaam karta hai, taaki log jo ubarna dekhte hain vah asli ho.
Aur jaanna chahein to
Yahi gehri wajah hai ki is jaisi koi guide bhaashan se nahi, balki aawaazon se shuru hoti hai. Sirf jaankari se kisi ka gehra baitha dar kam hi badalta hai. Ek chehra, ek naam aur ek aam kahani kahin zyada karte hain. Jis insaan se aap sach mein mil chuke hon, usse darna us label se darne ke muqaable kahin mushkil hai jise aapne bas kaanaaphoosi mein suna ho. Agar aap kisi haalat ke saath jeete hain, to aapki apni aam zindagi aapke aas-paas ke sab logon ke liye yeh kaam karti hai. Aapko bas ise khulkar jeena hai, jahan aap surakshit hokar aisa kar sakein.
Unhein kis cheez ne madad ki
Jab aap logon se poochte hain ki cheezein kisse badlin, to jawaab aapas mein mel khaate hain. Achha ilaaj. Aise log jo saath tike rahe. Ek maqsad ka ehsaas, koi wajah jiske liye utha jaaye. Aur waqt, jitna koi chaahe usse zyada, par vah apna kaam karta hai. Inmein se koi bhi akele yeh nahi kar paata.
Bahut se logon se poochiye ki ubarne mein kis cheez ne unki madad ki, to aapko wahi chaar baatein sunaai deti hain, alag-alag shabdon mein. Pehli, achha ilaaj jo un par theek baitha. Unke saath izzat se pesh aaya gaya, aur apni dekhbhaal mein unki asli raay li gayi. Doosri, aise log jo saath tike rahe: koi ghar ka sadasya, koi dost, kabhi-kabhi bas ek insaan jisne un par se ummeed nahi chhodi. Teesri, ek maqsad ka ehsaas. Kaam, padhai, aastha, kisi ka dhyan rakhna, kuch bhi jisse din shuru karna achha lage. Aur chauthi, waqt. Ubarna kam hi tez hota hai, aur yeh dheemapan naakaami nahi hai. Yeh to iske hone ka tarika hi hai.
Aur jaanna chahein to
Gaur kijiye ki us soochi mein se kya gaayab hai: bhaashan sunna, sharminda kiya jaana, ya yeh kaha jaana ki bas aur zor lagao. Inmein se kisi ne bhi kisi ki madad nahi ki. Jisne madad ki vah thi, sanjeedagi se liya jaana. Vah tha faislon mein shaamil kiya jaana, bajaay iske ki faisle unke baare mein liye jaayein. Vah tha apni dekhbhaal mein ek saathi ki tarah barta jaana, na ki ek mushkil ki tarah jise sambhaalna hai. Jin logon ne ise khud jiya hai, ve apne ubarne ke lekhak hain, uske chupchaap jhelne wale nahi.
- Achha ilaaj, izzat ke saath aur apni dekhbhaal mein asli raay ke saath.
- Aise log jo saath tike rahe: parivaar, koi dost, koi jisne ummeed nahi chhodi.
- Ek maqsad ka ehsaas, kuch jisse din shuru karna achha lage.
- Waqt, jitna koi chaahe usse zyada, par vah apna kaam karta hai.
Yaad
Inmein se koi ek cheez akele yeh nahi karti. Logon ke bina ilaaj akelapan lagta hai. Maqsad ke bina log khoya hua mehsoos kar sakte hain. Aur in sabko waqt chahiye. Ubarna in chaaron ka milkar, dheere-dheere kaam karna hai, jismein sapaat hafte bhi gine jaate hain, aapke khilaaf nahi rakhe jaate.
Insaan ko dekhiye, label ko nahi
Chaahe aap khud kisi haalat ke saath jee rahe hon, ya koi jise aap chaahte hain, aapka hissa kaafi had tak ek-sa hai. Ummeed ko thaame rakhiye. Insaan ko dekhiye, label ko nahi. Unke saath izzat se pesh aaiye, aur unki apni dekhbhaal mein unhein asli aawaaz dijiye. Aur madad ke liye jaldi haath badhaaiye, kyunki vah kaam karti hai.
Agar yeh aap khud hain: kripya ummeed ko thaame rakhiye. In haalaton ke ird-gird ki sharm bahut zordaar hai, aur vah jhooth bolti hai. Aap apni haalat nahi hain. Aap ek poore insaan hain jo zindagi ke ek hisse ko sambhaal rahe hain. Is guide mein jo zindagiyan hain, ve apvaad nahi hain. Ve aam hain. Jaldi haath badhaana aapko sabse achha mauqa deta hai: kisi doctor tak, kisi counselor tak, ya kisi bharose wale insaan tak. Madad paane ke laayaq hone ke liye aapko yeh intzaar karne ki zaroorat nahi ki cheezein naaqaabil-e-bardaasht ho jaayein.
Agar yeh koi hai jise aap chaahte hain: sabse kaam ki ek baat jo aap kar sakte hain, vah hai usi insaan ko dekhte rehna jise aap hamesha se jaante aaye hain. Insaan ko dekhiye, label ko nahi, aur unke saath waise hi pesh aaiye jaise hamesha aate the. Theek karne ki jaldi kiye bina suniye. Unhein faislon mein shaamil kijiye, bajaay iske ki unke liye faisle karein. Aur upar bataaye saboot ko yaad rakhiye: baraabari ke saath bas paas bane rehna, sabse taaqatwar cheezon mein se ek hai jo aap de sakte hain.
Seedha milna hi soch badalta hai. Har haalat ke peeche ek poora insaan hota hai, aur ise yaad rakhne ka sabse pakka tarika yahi hai ki aap uske saath khade rahein.
Agar kabhi din andhere lagne lagein
Ubarna kam hi ek seedhi rekha hota hai, aur ek bhaari daur is safar ka hissa hai, uska ant nahi. Par ho sakta hai kabhi aapke, ya kisi jise aap chaahte hain, man mein aise khayaal aayein ki zindagi jeene laayaq nahi hai. Kripya ise abhi haath badhaane ki wajah samajhiye, akele jhelte rehne ki nahi. Aap Tele-MANAS ko, muft rashtriya helpline ko, 14416 par phone kar sakte hain, kisi bhi waqt, din ho ya raat. Neeche jude sankat card mein aur bhi log hain jin tak aap pahunch sakte hain.
Ubarna hi niyam hai
Agar aap ek baat yaad rakhein, to vah yahi ho: log behtar ho jaate hain, aur ve kisi haalat ke saath bhari-poori zindagiyan jeete hain. Ubarna niyam hai, koi birla apvaad nahi. Ummeed ko thaame rakhiye, insaan ko dekhiye, aur jaldi haath badhaaiye. Madad asli hai, aur vah kaam karti hai.
Jo haalat aaj aisi lagti hai maano usne sab kuch chheen liya ho, vah ek adhyaay hai, poori kitaab nahi. Zyadatar log jo madad lete hain, ve sach mein behtar ho jaate hain. Ve aage chalkar kaam karte hain, pyaar karte hain, parivaar paalte hain aur apne aas-paas ke logon ke liye maayne rakhte hain, ek aisi haalat ke saath jo ab dor nahi thaame rehti. Jahan kabhi parivaar yeh sab chupchaap apne bheetar dhote the, vah khaamoshi purani sharm ki boli hai, sach ki nahi.
Us sharm ko khatm karna, taaki log izzat ke saath madad maang sakein, ab poori duniya mein ek aisi cheez maani jaati hai jo karne laayaq hai. Aap iska hissa sabse chhote, sabse aam tarike se ban sakte hain. Ummeed ko thaame rakhiye. Jaldi haath badhaaiye. Aur insaan ko dekhiye, kabhi sirf label ko nahi. Bharat mein muft rashtriya sahaara hamesha maujood hai, Tele-MANAS helpline ke zariye 14416 par, din ho ya raat.
Yeh jaankari kahan se hai
Yeh guide samajhne mein madad karti hai. Yeh nidaan nahin hai. Uske liye doctor se milein.