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Khaana aur khaane ki aadateinKhane se sulah
Khaane se mushkil rishte par ek garm, seedhi-saadi guide: kyun yeh ek asli bimari hai, koi dikhawa nahi, yeh kaise ek sehne ke tarike ki tarah jad pakad leta hai, woh madad jo sach mein kaam karti hai, kab haath badhaayein, aur kyun theek hona sach hai.
Yeh ek bimari hai, koi chunav nahi
Khane ke saath mushkil rishta ek sacchi bimari hai. Yeh na dikhava hai, na jeene ka koi shauk, aur na koi diet jo had se zyada badh gayi ho. Yeh khane, khane ki aadaton ya wazan ka istemaal karke mushkil bhavnaon se joojhne ka ek tarika hai. Aur yeh kisi ko bhi ho sakta hai, kisi bhi shareer ke, kisi bhi ling ke, aur kisi bhi umar ke insaan ko.
Shayad aapse kaha gaya ho ki aap yeh sab dhyan kheenchne ke liye kar rahe hain, ki aapko bas seedhe-saade dhang se kha lena chahiye, ki yeh to bas ek daur hai ya koi fashion. Shayad aapne yahi baatein khud se bhi kahi hon, andar hi andar ek aisi sharm liye baithe hue jise aap kisi ko samjha nahi paate. Sach isse kahin zyada naram hai, aur saath hi kahin zyada gambhir bhi. Aap jiske saath jee rahe hain, woh ek bimari hai. Log ise theek usi tarah nahi chunte jaise woh kisi aur bimari ko nahi chunte.
Khane ke saath mushkil rishta ek pehchani hui bimari hai. Ismein insaan khane aur khane ki aadaton par kaabu paane ka istemaal un bhavnaon se joojhne ke liye karne lagta hai jo kisi aur tarike se sambhale nahi ja rahin, itni bhaari ho gayi hain. Baat is baare mein nahi hai ki shareer bahar se kaisa dikhta hai. Yeh kisi kamzor charitra ki nishani nahi hai. Yeh bhavnaon aur kaabu paane ki ek sacchi bimari hai, koi dikhava nahi, aur koi chunav nahi.
Aur yeh kisi khaas tarah ke insaan ko nahi chunti. Yeh har tarah ke shareer tak, har ling tak, aur har umar tak pahunchti hai, un logon tak bhi jin par kisi ko kabhi shak tak nahi hota.
Aur jaanna chahein to
Yahi wajah hai ki "bas dhang se kha lo" ek itni khokhli salah hai, chahe woh kitne hi pyaar se kyun na kahi gayi ho. Agar baat itni aasan hoti, to kisi ko takleef nahi hoti. Andar jo kuch chal raha hai, woh asal mein khane ke baare mein hai hi nahi. Khana to bas woh zubaan ban gaya hai jisse insaan andar ki kisi takleef ko sambhalne ki koshish kar raha hai. Ise kisi kharabi ke bajay ek bimari ki tarah dekhna na to koi bahana hai, aur na hi haar maan lena. Yeh to isse aazad hone ki taraf pehla saccha kadam hai.
Ek baar, saaf-saaf khud se yeh kahiye: yeh ek bimari hai, is baat ka saboot nahi ki main ghamandi, kamzor ya dhyan kheenchne wala insaan hoon. Mehsoos kijiye ki yeh un baaton se kitna alag lagta hai jo aapse kahi gayi hain, ya jo aapne khud se kahi hain. Aap ise ek aisi cheez ki tarah sambhal sakte hain jise theek karna hai, na ki koi aisa raaz jis par sharm aani chahiye.
Jab khana zindagi ki kamaan sambhalne lage
Khane ke saath mushkil rishta aksar pehle thali mein nahi, man mein dikhayi deta hai. Khana aur khane ki aadaten aapke man par chhane lagti hain. Khane ke saath dar ya apraadh-bhaav aa sakta hai, ya aisa lag sakta hai jaise kaabu hi na raha ho. Apne shareer ko lekar gehri pareshani hoti hai, cheezon ko chhupane ka man karta hai, aur chupke se logon se doori banne lagti hai, khaaskar khane ke waqt.
Yeh aksar apna ailaan karke nahi aata. Zyadatar to yeh chupke se andar sarakta hai, jab tak ki ek din insaan ko ehsaas hota hai ki isne kitni jagah gher li hai. Khana aur khane ki aadaten man mein bharne lagti hain, baaki cheezon ko kinare karte hue. Khane ke saath hi dar ya apraadh-bhaav jud sakta hai, ya woh ajeeb tarah se kaabu se bahar lag sakta hai, jaise koi aur taaqat use chala rahi ho. Aksar shareer ko lekar ek bhaari pareshani rehti hai, jise koi dilasa chhoo tak nahi paata.
Phir dheere-dheere duniya simatne lagti hai. Khana akele mein, nazron se door karne wali cheez ban jaata hai. Jin bulawon mein khana shamil ho, woh dar jaise lagne lagte hain, isliye unhein taal diya jaata hai, aur dheere-dheere jo log parwah karte hain unhein bhi door rakha jaane lagta hai. Sabse mushkil nishaniyan wahi hain jo andar hain: dar, apraadh-bhaav, aur woh chhupana jo kisi ko dikhta nahi.
- Ek mushkil bhavna aati hai, jiske saath baith paana bhaari hota hai.
- Khane par kaabu paane se pal bhar ke liye raahat ya tarteeb ka ek jhootha ehsaas hota hai.
- Raahat jaldi hi mit jaati hai, aur takleef laut aati hai.
- Ise phir se karne ki khinchav badhti hai, aur pakad aur kasti jaati hai.
Aur jaanna chahein to
Inmein se koi bhi nishani kisi naitik kamzori ki nahi hai, aur na hi koi aisi cheez hai jise insaan bas tay karke rok de. Ye to woh aakaar hain jo yeh bimari le leti hai. Inhein naam dena, chahe chupke se khud se hi sahi, inmein phanse rehne jaisa nahi hai. Yeh to inse bahar kadam rakhne ki, aur kisi ko andar aane dene ki shuruaat hai. Agar ismein se kuch bhi jaana-pehchana lage, to yeh aap par koi faisla nahi hai. Yeh to bas jaankari hai, aur madad isi jaankari par khadi hoti hai.
Iski shuruaat joojhne ke ek tarike ke roop mein hui
Khane ke saath mushkil rishta aksar aisi wajahon se jad pakadta hai jinka khane se bahut kam lena-dena hota hai. Takleefdeh bhavnaayein, zindagi jab beqaabu lage tab kisi cheez par kaabu ki chaah, har cheez perfect karne ka dabaav, purani chot, aur ek aisi duniya jo roop-rang par faisle sunati hai, ye sab ise badha sakte hain. Yeh aksar joojhne ke ek tarike ke roop mein shuru hota hai, jo aakhir mein nuksaan karne lagta hai.
Log ek din subah uthkar yeh tay nahi karte ki ab woh khane se joojhenge. Yeh badhta hai, aksar dheere-dheere, un cheezon se jinhein sambhalna mushkil tha. Aisi takleefdeh bhavnaayein jinke jaane ki koi jagah nahi thi. Kaabu ka koi chhota-sa kona paane ki zaroorat, jab baaki zindagi haath se phisalti lage. Har cheez ko sahi karne ka ek khinchav. Purani chot ya koi gehri, dardnaak chot. Aur in sabke upar, is baat ka lagatar dabaav ki shareer ko kaisa dikhna chahiye.
Ise itna ziddi jo cheez banati hai, woh yeh hai ki shuruaat mein yeh thoda-bahut kaam karta hai. Yeh kisi bhavna ko sunn kar sakta hai, ya tarteeb ka ehsaas laut sakta hai, ya kuch der ke liye kisi dar ko shaant kar sakta hai. Isliye man baar-baar isi ki taraf haath badhata hai. Par raahat kabhi tikti nahi, aur waqt ke saath jo cheez bachane wali lagti thi, wahi nuksaan karne wali ban jaati hai. Iski shuruaat joojhne ke ek tarike ke roop mein hui thi, aur theek isiliye ise chhodna itna mushkil hai.
Khud par koi faisla sunaye bina, dheere se poochhiye: jab yeh jad pakadne laga tha, tab meri zindagi mein kya chal raha tha? Aapko koi saaf-suthra jawab nikaalne ki zaroorat nahi hai, aur na hi ise abhi theek karne ki. Bas yeh mehsoos kar lena ki khana kisi aur cheez ko sambhalne ka tarika ban gaya tha, apne aap mein ek sacchi aur kaam ki samajh hai, waisi hi jismein koi doctor ya counselor aapki madad kar sakta hai.
Madad sacchi hai, aur yeh kaam karti hai
Yeh behtar hota hai, aur iski madad acchi tarah se jaani-samjhi hui hai. Aazmaayi hui raah hai: baatchit se ilaaj wali ek therapy, ek medical jaanch kyunki yeh shareer par asar daal sakta hai, aur aapka saath dene wale logon ki ek team. Aur jaldi li gayi madad sabse accha kaam karti hai. Kabhi-kabhi doctor yeh bhi soch sakte hain ki kya saath ki kisi dikkat ke liye dawa bhi madad kar sakti hai. Yeh sab aapko akele nahi karna hai.
Sabse zaroori baat jo jaan leni chahiye, woh yeh hai ki khane ke saath mushkil rishte ka ilaaj ho sakta hai, aur ye ilaaj koi andaza-tukka nahi hain. Chhoti umar ke logon ke liye, jis tarike ke peechhe sabse mazboot saboot hai, woh maa-baap aur dekhbhaal karne walon ko saath leta hai. Woh theek hone mein saath dene ke liye ek kendriya, tay samay wali bhumika nibhate hain, bajay iske ki chhote ko akela iska saamna karne ke liye chhod dein. Dhyan se ki gayi jaanch-parakh mein dekha gaya ki isne akele ki therapy ke muqable zyada logon ko poori tarah theek hone mein madad ki.
Badon ke liye, khane ki dikkaton par baat karne wali therapy ilaaj ki reedh hai, aur yeh in dikkaton ki har tarah par kaam karti hai, sirf kisi ek tarah par nahi. Ek adhyayan mein jismein bahut alag-alag tarah ke log shamil the, ise paane wale logon mein se kareeb do-tihai theek hone tak pahunche. Iska ilaaj ho sakta hai, aur jo madad kaam karti hai woh acchi tarah se jaani-samjhi hui hai, koi andaza-tukka nahi.
Meera 29 saal ki hai aur Hubli mein lambe-lambe din kaam karti hai. Do-ek saal se, khana chupchaap woh cheez ban gaya tha jis par woh tab kaabu rakhti thi jab baaki sab kuch had se zyada lagne lagta tha, aur doston ke saath khana khana dheere-dheere taalne wali cheez ban gaya tha. Jo badla woh koi ek faisla nahi tha, balki chhote-chhote, beraunak faislon ki ek kadi thi. Usne ek bharosemand insaan ko bata diya. Woh jaanch ke liye doctor ke paas gayi. Usne baatchit se ilaaj wali therapy shuru ki aur chalti rahi, un hafton mein bhi jo peechhe jaane jaise lagte the. Yeh dheema tha, aur ubad-khabad. Par pakad dheeli padi, aur roz ka khana ek jung nahi raha.
Aur jaanna chahein to
Acchi dekhbhaal lagbhag hamesha kai logon ka mila-jula kaam hoti hai, akeli koi ek cheez nahi. Baatchit se ilaaj wali therapy ke saath-saath aamtaur par ek medical jaanch hoti hai, aur shareer ki sehat par kuch lagatar dhyan bhi. Yeh isliye zaroori hai kyunki khane ke saath mushkil rishta shareer par aise tariqon se asar daal sakta hai jinki aasani se nazar chook jaati hai. Kabhi-kabhi doctor aapke saath milkar yeh bhi soch sakte hain ki kya saath ki kisi dikkat ke liye, jaise man udaas rehna (low mood) ya tez talab, dawa badi yojana ke ek hisse ke taur par madad kar sakti hai. Yeh doctor ke saath karne wali baat hai, na ki apne aap shuru karne ya us par faisla sunane wali cheez. Aur madad jitni jaldi shuru ho, cheezein utni hi behtar chalti hain.
- Aapke liye sahi baithne wali baatchit se ilaaj wali therapy, yojana ki reedh ke taur par.
- Ek medical jaanch, kyunki yeh chupke se shareer par asar daal sakta hai.
- Aapke aaspaas logon ki ek team, taaki aap iska saamna akele na karein.
- Jaldi haath badhana, jisse theek hone ka sabse accha mauqa milta hai.
Yaad
Theek hona shayad hi kabhi ek seedhi lakeer hoti hai, aur ek mushkil din ya ek baar phisal jaana aapki aage badhi pragati ko mita nahi deta. Kaam yeh hai ki un logon aur un aadaton tak jaate rahein jo madad karti hain, dagmagahaton ke saath sabr rakhein, aur sadhe hue dinon ko judne dein. Narmi aur lagatar koshish har baar sakhti aur perfection ko peechhe chhod deti hai.
Itna bimar hone ka intzaar mat kijiye
Khane ke saath mushkil rishta man ki sabhi bimariyon mein shareer ke lihaaz se sabse gambhir bimariyon mein se ek hai, isliye intzaar karne ke bajay jaldi haath badhana zaroori hai, aur sabse accha to yeh ki shuruaat kisi doctor se karein jo aapki poori sehat ki jaanch kar sake. Aapko pehle kisi tootne ke mod tak pahunchne ki zaroorat nahi hai. Jaldi haath badhana sabse accha mauqa deta hai.
Yeh woh hissa hai jo sabse zyada maayne rakhta hai, isliye ise saaf-saaf kaha ja raha hai. Khane ke saath mushkil rishta shareer par gambhir asar daal sakta hai. Man ki bimariyon mein, yeh shareer ke lihaaz se sabse khatarnak bimariyon mein se ek hai. Iska maqsad aapko darana nahi hai. Iska maqsad ise utni hi gambhirta se lena hai jitni yeh haq rakhti hai. Aur saaf-saaf yeh kehna hai: aisa koi "kaafi bura" star nahi hai jahan aapko pehle pahunchna zaroori ho, tabhi aap madad maang sakein.
Insaan jitni jaldi haath badhata hai, cheezein utni hi behtar chalti hain. Ek accha pehla kadam bas ek doctor hai jo poori tasveer dekh sake aur jaanch le ki shareer theek hai. In bimariyon se jaan ka khatra saccha hai. Iska ek bada hissa gehri niraasha se aata hai. Theek isiliye jaldi haath badhana, aur andhere palon mein haath badhana, itna maayne rakhta hai. Madad maangne ke liye aapka itna bimar hona zaroori nahi hai. Aapko abhi madad ka poora haq hai.
Agar sab andhera-sa lage
Agar kabhi aapke man mein khud ko nuksaan pahunchane ke, ya yeh ki zindagi jeene laayak nahi hai, aise khayal aayein, to please fauran kisi se baat kijiye. Yeh bojh aapko akele nahi uthana hai, aur madad se yeh behtar ho sakta hai. Aap Tele-MANAS ko, muft rashtriya helpline ko, 14416 par phone kar sakte hain, kisi bhi waqt, din ho ya raat. Neeche juda sankat card (crisis card) aise aur logon ke number deta hai jin tak aap pahunch sakte hain.
Ek sawaal likhkar rakhiye jo aap doctor se poochhna chahenge, aur use apne phone mein rakhiye. Kuch aisa jaise "khane ne meri zindagi par kabza kar liya hai aur mujhe samajh nahi aata ise kaise rokun, kya aap madad kar sakte hain?" Sawaal pehle se taiyaar rakhna pehli mulaqat ko kahin aasan bana deta hai. Aur pehli mulaqat hi sabse mushkil hoti hai.
Aap isse kahin zyada hain
Khane ke saath mushkil rishte se theek hona sach hai aur mumkin hai. Zyadatar log ilaaj se behtar hote hain, halanki ismein waqt lagta hai aur yeh har kisi ke liye alag dikhta hai. Aap apni is jaddojahad ke baraabar nahi hain, aur iske aaspaas ki woh chuppi aur sharm, jo bhartiya parivaron mein itni aam hai, aapke baare mein sach nahi hai.
Bahut logon ke liye sabse bhaari hissa khud bimari nahi hota. Woh hota hai yeh chupchaap maan lena ki yeh jaddojahad hi unki pehchaan hai, ki isne un sabko nigal liya hai jo woh the. Aisa sochna samajh mein aata hai, par yeh baat sach nahi hai. Khane ke saath mushkil rishta ek aisi cheez hai jisse aap guzar rahe hain, aapka poora jod nahi. Aapke woh hisse jinhein isne daba diya lagta hai, aapki garmjoshi, aapka hansi-mazaaq, aapke apne log, ab bhi wahin hain, phir se jiye jaane ka intzaar karte hue.
Theek hona sach hai, aur zyadatar logon ke liye yeh ilaaj ke saath aata hi hai, bhale hi yeh dheere-dheere aaye aur ek insaan se doosre insaan mein alag dikhe. Raaste mein kuch zyada mushkil padaav aa sakte hain, aur woh bahut logon ke liye isi raah ka hissa hain, is baat ki nishani nahi ki aap naakaam hue. Bahut-se bhartiya parivaron mein is tarah ki jaddojahad ko kinare kar diya jaata hai ya chupchaap apne andar dho liya jaata hai, aur woh chuppi sabse bhaari usi insaan par girti hai jo ise jee raha hota hai. Woh chuppi aur woh sharm aapke baare mein sach nahi hain.
Jis insaan ne kisi mushkil waqt se bach nikalne ke liye khane ka istemaal karna seekha, wahi insaan madad aur waqt ke saath phir se aazadi se jeena seekh sakta hai. Yeh shayad hi kabhi ek hi jhatke mein hota hai, aur lagbhag hamesha kai aam, dheere-dheere halke hote dinon mein hota hai.
Aur jaanna chahein to
Un logon aur us madad tak haath badhate rahiye jo aapko thaame rakhte hain, un dinon ko maaf kar dijiye jo yojana ke mutabiq nahi chalte, aur dheere se phir shuru kar dijiye. Kisi mushkil hafte ke baad raah ko phir se utha lena shuruaat se shuru karna nahi hai. Yahi to asal kaam hai, aur saccha theek hona zyadatar aisa hi dikhta hai. Aapko jagah gherne ka, sambhale jaane ka, aur ek aisi zindagi mein laut aane ka poora haq hai jo isse kahin badi hai.
Aapke saath
Agar kabhi sab andhera-sa lage, ya aapke man mein yeh khayal aaye ki zindagi jeene laayak nahi hai, to please haath badhaiye, akele ise jhelte mat rahiye. Aap Tele-MANAS ko, muft rashtriya helpline ko, 14416 par phone kar sakte hain, kisi bhi waqt, din ho ya raat. Neeche diya sankat card (crisis card) aise aur logon ke number deta hai jin tak aap pahunch sakte hain.
Aaj, madad karne wali raah se ek chhota kadam uthaiye, kisi ek bharosemand insaan ko bataakar, ya doctor ke liye woh ek sawaal likhkar. Ek kadam poora safar nahi hai, par safar isi tarah shuru hota hai.
Yeh jaankari kahan se hai
Yeh guide samajhne mein madad karti hai. Yeh nidaan nahin hai. Uske liye doctor se milein.