Aapka bhai-behen aur bipolar

Jab koi bhai ya behen bade mood jhoolon ke saath jeeta hai, to poora parivaar chupchaap usi ki taraf jhuk jaata hai. Acche hafton aur mushkil hafton ke saath yojanaein badalti rehti hain. Parivaar ka bahut saara dhyaan ek hi taraf behta hai, aur bahut saari chinta bhi usi jagah jaakar tik jaati hai. Shayad aapko yaad bhi na ho ki yeh kisi ne tay kiya tha. Yeh bas dheere-dheere hota gaya, jab tak yahi ghar ki aam shakl nahi ban gayi.

Usi shakl mein kahin, aap ek aisi bhoomika mein phisal gaye honge jo kisi ne aapke liye chuni nahi thi. Shaant rehne wala. Madad karne wala. Woh jo aur mushkilein nahi badhaata. Yeh bhoomika sach mein ek kaam hai, bhale hi koi ise naam na de. Aapne ghar ke mausam ko padhna seekh liya aur khud ko sambhaalne mein aasaan banaaye rakha, taaki sabke sar par ek cheez kam rahe.

Itne bade mood jhoole woh aam oonch-neech nahi hain jo har kisi ke saath hoti hain. Ek bhaari, neeche wali taraf ho sakti hai aur ek tez, chadhi hui taraf, aur in dono ke beech ka jhoola ek bimaari ka hissa hai, aapke bhai-behen ka aap par kiya gaya koi chunaav nahi. Sirf ek doctor hi keh sakta hai ki asal mein aapke bhai-behen ko kya hai. Yeh kitaabcha un par koi label nahi lagaata. Yeh isliye hai taaki aap samajh sakein ki aap kis daur se guzar rahe hain, aur aap ab tak kya-kya uthaate aaye hain.

Aapke bhai-behen ne ise chuna nahi, aur aapne ise paida nahi kiya. Yeh dimaag mein chalta hai aur parivaar ki dor mein bhi, thoda waise hi jaise kad ya nazar kisi parivaar mein chali aati hai. Jo bartaav aap dekhte hain woh bimaari hai, is baare mein koi sandesh nahi ki ve aapse kitna pyaar karte hain. Jis din aap in dono ko alag rakh paate hain, bahut saari chot dheeli pad jaati hai.

Neeche wali taraf mein, aapka bhai-behen had se zyada so sakta hai, chup ho sakta hai, ya har cheez mein, yahan tak ki aap mein bhi, dilchaspi kho sakta hai. Woh door hatna bimaari hai jo unhe andar kheench rahi hai, aapko thukraana nahi. Upar wali taraf mein, ve tez bol sakte hain, bahut kam so sakte hain, bada kharch ya bade waade kar sakte hain, ya khud ko na rukne wala mehsoos kar sakte hain. Yeh romanchak bhi lag sakta hai aur daraawna bhi, aur phir bhi yeh bimaari hai, unka asli, thehra hua roop nahi.

Chunki yeh parivaaron mein chalti hai, aap chupchaap apne khud ke khatre ke baare mein soch sakte hain. Yeh sochna jaayaz hai, aur yahan saccha jawaab yeh hai: badha hua khatra taqdeer nahi hai. Is haalat wale zyadatar logon ke bhai-behnon mein yeh khud paida nahi hoti, aur agar kabhi aap mein chinta badhe, to ek doctor der ke bajaay jaldi madad kar sakta hai.

Bimaari ko apne bhai-behen se alag karna hi woh cheez hai jo in dono ko saath rehne deti hai. Aap bimaari par gussa ho sakte hain ki woh aapke parivaar se kya-kya chheenti hai, aur phir bhi uske neeche chhipe insaan se pyaar kar sakte hain. Aapko inmein se kisi ek ko chunna nahi hai.

Bhai-behen aksar ek chhupa hua bojh uthaate hain. Aap mood par nazar rakhte hain ki kahin woh mudne ki pehli nishani to nahi. Aap cheezon ke bade hone se pehle hi unhe sambhaal lete hain. Aap ghar ki un khaali jagahon ko bharte hain jinhe kisi na kisi ko bharna hi hai, aur aap chupchaap agle mushkil daur ke liye khud ko kaste rehte hain. Research bataata hai ki bhai-behen yeh khinchaav maata-pita se bhi zyada teekha mehsoos kar sakte hain. Yeh ek saccha bojh hai, aur zyadatar log aapko ise uthaate hue kabhi dekhte hi nahi.

Ho sakta hai aap apne doston se jaldi bade ho gaye hon, ghar ke aise kaam apne sar lekar jo kabhi aapke the hi nahi. Iska ek naam hai, aur yeh bhai-behnon ke saath sach mein hone wali ek baat hai, aapka kamzor hona nahi. Ek tulna bhi hai: aisa lagna ki aap hi aasaan wale hain, andekhe wale hain, woh jise kabhi kisi cheez ki zaroorat hi nahi honi chahiye taaki parivaar ke sar par sambhaalne ko kam rahe.

Ho sakta hai aap kisi aur door ki baat ke liye bhi khud ko kaste hon: aage chalkar aapke bhai-behen ka khayaal kaun rakhega, jab maata-pita nahi rahenge, aur kya woh chupchaap aap par aa jaayega. Is baare mein ise jhuthlaane ke bajaay imaandaari se sochna theek hai. Jhuthlaane se yeh halka nahi hota. Bas aap ise akele aur andhere mein uthaate reh jaate hain.

Pyaar, chinta, apraadhbodh, naaraazgi, sharmindagi, aur ek gham, ye sab ek saath aap mein reh sakte hain, kabhi-kabhi ek hi ghante mein. Inmein se koi bhi aapko bura bhai-behen nahi banaata. Ye aapko ek mushkil haalat mein phansa ek insaan banaate hain. Bhaavnaayein aise tathya nahi hain ki aankh moondkar un par chal padein, par ve sacchi hain aur sunne laayak hain.

Acche-bhale rehne par, ya apni khud ki zindagi chaahne par apraadhbodh hona behad aam hai. Ek aam din chaahna apne bhai-behen ke saath dhoka nahi hai. Jab ghar phir se unke ird-gird jhuk jaata hai tab naaraazgi hona bhi aam hai. Woh naaraazgi is baat ki jaankari hai ki aapko kya chahiye, is baat ka saboot nahi ki aap swaarthi hain.

Aap mein ek chupchaap gham bhi ho sakta hai: us aam bhai-behen ke rishte ka gham jiski aapne umeed ki thi, ya us parivaar ka jo aapne socha tha ki aapka hoga. Aisa gham jaayaz hai, tab bhi jab aapka bhai-behen ab bhi yahin hai aur ab bhi pyaara hai. Apne parivaar ke us aasaan roop ko yaad karna jo kabhi aaya hi nahi, bewafaai nahi hai.

Bhaavnaaon ko daba dene se ve chhoti nahi hoti. Ve bas kisi aisi jagah chali jaati hain jahan pahunchna aur mushkil hai, aur phir ve chhoti baat par gusse, doori, ya ek aisi thakaan bankar tedhe raaste se risti hain jise aap samjha nahi paate. Unhe naam dena, chaahe bas apne mann mein, isi tarah aap unki taaqat waapas apne haath mein lete hain.

Aap bhai-behen hain. Aap doctor, nurse, ya aakhri sahaara nahi hain. Aap gehra khayaal rakh sakte hain aur phir bhi woh nahi banna jo sab kuch akela, hamesha, sambhaale rakhe. Sab kuch sambhaal lena pyaar nahi hai. Yeh khud ko jala dene ka ek tez raasta hai, aur ek jala hua bhai-behen kisi ke kaam nahi aata.

Hadein koi kathorta nahi hain. Kuch cheezon ko na kehna, ya jab aap nichud jaayein tab ek kadam peechhe hatna, yahi woh cheez hai jo aapko mahinon mein dhehne ke bajaay saalon tak saath nibhaate rehne deti hai. Aapko apni zindagi ka haq hai: dost, padhaai, kaam, aaraam, apni khud ki yojanaein. Apni oxygen bachaana apne bhai-behen se churaana nahi hai. Yahi aapko itna mazboot rakhta hai ki aap madad kar sakein.

Madad tab sabse achhi chalti hai jab woh baanti jaaye, ek hi insaan par laadi na jaaye. Tiki hui rozmarra ki lay, bahas ke bajaay shaanti, aur ek saajha pehle se chetaane wali yojna jis par poora parivaar saath milkar nazar rakhe, ye kisi ek insaan ke akele uthaane se zyada utha leti hain. Jab koi chadha hua mood chal raha ho ya koi neeche wala mood bhaari ho, to usi pal usse bahas ya use samjhaakar utaarne ki koshish mat kijiye. Tike rahiye, naram rahiye, aur iska saamna akele karne ke bajaay doosre badon aur ek doctor ko saath lijiye.

Aapke bhai-behen ko sahi dekhbhaal ka haq hai, aur parivaar ka saath sach mein yeh badal deta hai ki cheezein kis raah jaati hain. Jab parivaar bimaari ke baare mein aur usse kaise pesh aana hai yeh seekhte hain, to daure kam padte hain aur poora parivaar, aap bhi, behtar rehta hai. Madad paana koi aakhri sahaara ya haar maanna nahi hai. Yahi woh cheez hai jo sabse bharose ke saath mushkil hisson ko kam mushkil banaati hai.

Aisi chetaavni ki nishaniyon par nazar rakhiye jinke liye jaldi doctor chahiye: kayi dinon tak na sona, jokhim wala kharch ya gaadi chalana, khud ko ajeya bataane wali baatein, ya ek gehri neeche wali haalat jismein bhaari niraasha ho aur har kisi se door hatna ho. Agar aapka bhai-behen kabhi jeene ki ichha na hone ki, khud ko chot pahunchaane ki baat kare, ya apni cheezein baantne lage, to ise gambheerta se lijiye. Unhe akela mat chhodiye, kisi bhi aisi cheez tak pahunch kam kijiye jisse ve khud ko nuksaan pahuncha sakte hon, aur usi din madad lijiye.

Madad aapke liye bhi hai, sirf aapke bhai-behen ke liye nahi. Kisi counsellor, kisi bharosemand bade, ya kisi sahaara-samooh se baat karna kamzori nahi hai, aur yeh unse dekhbhaal chheenna bhi nahi hai. Aapka bhi khayaal rakha jaana jaayaz hai. Ek bhai-behen jo khud tika hua aur sahaara paaya ho, woh us bhai ya behen ke liye saath nibhaate rehne mein kahin zyada saksham hota hai jise woh pyaar karta hai.