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Bipolarbipolar dimaag ke saath jeena
Ek shaant guide, us man ke liye jo unche aur neeche daur ke beech chalta hai, aur jo sahi sahaare ke saath ek sthir, bhari-poori zindagi bana sakta hai.
Sirf mood ka chadhna-utarna nahi
bipolar ek asli sehat ki dikkat hai, na ki koi kamzor swabhaav ya bas "bahut zyada" hona. Sahi sahaare ke saath log bhari-poori, sthir zindagi jeete hain.
Shayad aapse kaha gaya ho ki aap bahut bhaavuk hain, bahut naatkeey hain, ya bas bahut zyada hain. Aapne shayad khud ko sambhaale rakhne ki bahut koshish ki hogi aur socha hoga ki yeh baar-baar haath se kyun nikal jaata hai. Wo sangharsh sachcha tha. Bas wo label galat the.
bipolar ek maana hua sehat ki dikkat hai. Yeh koi aisa mood nahi jisse aap bas jhatakkar bahar aa jaayein, aur na hi yeh aapke swabhaav ki koi kami hai. Yeh aapke mood aur aapki oorja, dono par asar daalta hai. Yeh dauron mein chalta hai, aur beech-beech mein sthir daur bhi aate hain. Yeh koi bura hafta ya ek mushkil daur nahi hai. Yeh mood aur oorja ke chalne ka ek tikaau dharra hai, aur iska ek naam hai, ek wajah hai jo aapne nahi chuni, aur iski asli madad maujood hai.
Aur yeh jitna zyadatar log sochte hain, usse kahin zyada aam hai.
- Roz ka mood ghanton mein chadhta-utarta hai aur halka hi rehta hai.
- bipolar ke badlaav dinon ya hafton tak rehte hain aur sirf mood nahi, aapki oorja, neend aur soch-samajh ko bhi badal dete hain.
- Dauron ke beech kai log sthir aur theek mehsoos karte hain. Wo sthirta asli hoti hai, kismat nahi.
Aur jaanna chahein to
"bipolar" shabd do dhruvon ki or ishaara karta hai, ek uncha sira aur ek neecha sira. Par bipolar ke saath zindagi ka zyadatar hissa kisi sire par nahi beetta. Wo beech mein beetta hai, aam kaam karte hue, aur yahi theek wajah hai ki sthir rehne ki mehnat karna sahi hai. Maqsad kuch bhi mehsoos na karna nahi hai. Maqsad hai badlaavon ko chhota, kam, aur jinse lautna aasaan ho, aisa banana.
Yeh ek baar, zor se kahiye: yeh ek sehat ki dikkat hai, yeh main nahi hoon. Ab aaj ki kisi ek sthir cheez par gaur kijiye, chahe wo kitni hi chhoti ho. Wo sthirta bhi aapka hi ek hissa hai.
Unche daur, neeche daur, aur beech ka hissa
bipolar ek tez oorja wale sire aur ek mand sire ke beech chalta hai, aur kabhi-kabhi dono ek saath. Apne khud ke dharre ki shakl jaanna hi pehla asli auzaar hai.
Uncha sira pehle-pehal achha lag sakta hai: tez khayal, badi yojnaayein, neend ki kam zaroorat, zyada aatmvishwaas. Par had se zyada badh jaaye to yeh mazedaar nahi rehta. Neend gayab ho jaati hai, kharch ya jokhim badhne lagte hain, aur aapse pehle doosre log fikr karne lagte hain. Neecha sira iska ulta hai: bhaari, dheema, berang. Neend aur bhookh aksar bigad jaati hai, aur aage ka sab kuch sapaat sa dikhta hai.
Kuch logon ko mile-jule daur bhi aate hain. Engine tez daudta hai aur mood ek hi samay par andhera rehta hai. Mile-jule daur andar se samajhna sabse mushkil hota hai, aur yahi theek wajah hai ki bahar ki ek nazar, koi bharose ka insaan ya ek doctor, maayne rakhti hai.
- Uncha sira: tez chalta hua. Tez khayal, badi yojnaayein, neend ki kam zaroorat.
- Neecha sira: dheema pada hua. Bhaari, sapaat, kam oorja aur kam ummeed.
- Mila-jula: dono ek saath. Tez aur udaas dono, samajhna sabse mushkil.
Dono sire har kisi ke liye baraabar aam nahi hote. Label utna maayne nahi rakhte jitna apna khud ka dharra jaanna: aapke unche daur kaise shuru hote hain, aapke neeche daur kaise mehsoos hote hain, aur kaun si cheez aapko ek se doosre ki or dhakelti hai.
Aur jaanna chahein to
Aapko doctori naam yaad rakhne ki zaroorat nahi hai. Jo madad karta hai wo hai apna ek saaf naksha: aapke shuruaati unche aur neeche daur kaise dikhte hain, aur kaun si cheez aapke sthir daur ko hila deti hai. Ek doctor ise banane mein madad kar sakta hai, aur wo log bhi jo aapko lambe samay se jaante hain.
Apne aakhri saaf badlaav ko yaad kijiye, chahe upar ka ho ya neeche ka. Uske baare mein ek line likhiye ki wo bada hone se pehle kaise shuru hua tha. Wo pehli line is guide ki sabse kaam ki line hai.
Sthir rehna hi asli kaam hai
Sthir rehna koi aisi cheez hai jo aap karte hain, na ki jiska aap intezaar karte hain. Neend, dincharya, sahaara, aur shuruaati sanketon ko pakadna, sab milkar mushkil daur ke aane ki sambhaavna ghataate hain.
Sabse bada badlaav yeh hai: bipolar ke saath zyadatar kaam tab hota hai jab aap theek hote hain, tab nahi jab aap theek nahi hote. Ek sadha hua khud-sambhaal, yaani yeh seekhna ki aapki dikkat kaise kaam karti hai aur ise kaise sambhaalna hai, phir se bigadne ki sambhaavna ko naapne laayak had tak ghata deta hai.
Teen cheezein bahut saara bojh uthaati hain. Yahan sthir neend koi aish nahi hai. Yeh ilaaj hai. Bigdi neend aur ast-vyast shareer ki ghadi, dono ek daur ko chhed bhi sakte hain aur ek daur ke beech aur bigad bhi sakte hain. To apni neend aur ek niyamit roz ki lay ko bachaana aapko bachaata hai. Dawa doosri cheez hai. Kai logon ke liye yahi wo cheez hai jo badlaavon ko chhota rakhti hai, aur ilaaj aam taur par dawa aur roz ke sahaare, dono saath milkar sabse achha chalta hai, akele koi ek nahi. Dawa ko taulna aapke aur ek doctor ke beech ki baatcheet hai, aur ek alag Weave guide batati hai ki kaise. Teesri cheez hai mushkil ko jaldi pakad lena.
- Hara yaani khud jaisa mehsoos hona, neend aur dincharya tiki hui.
- Peela yaani shuruaati aur niji sanket: kam neend, khayal tez ya dheeme hote hue, khud ko door kheenchte hue.
- Laal yaani ek saaf daur, jo aapko ya aapke kareebi logon ko saaf dikh jaaye.
Apne shuruaati chetawni sanketon ko pehchanna aur un par kadam uthana un sabse asardaar cheezon mein se ek hai jo aap kar sakte hain. Ek adhyayan mein, jin logon ko unche daur ke pehle sanket jaldi pakadna sikhaya gaya, wo apne agle daur tak kahin zyada lamba gaye.
Yaad rakhiye
Sthir rehne ki ek yojna is baat ki nishaani nahi hai ki aap naakaam hone ki ummeed kar rahe hain. Yeh wo cheez hai jo sthir log tab banaate hain jab wo theek hote hain, taaki agli dagmagaahat chhoti rahe.
Apne khud ke do peele sanket likh lijiye, wo chhote shuruaati sanket jo sirf aap hi pehchanenge. Apna peela jaanna hi wo tarika hai jisse aap apne laal se bach jaate hain.
Rishte, kaam, aur paisa
bipolar aapke aas-paas ke logon, aapke kaam, aur aapke kharch ko chhoota hai. Kuch bharose ke logon ke saath imaandaari in teenon ko bachaati hai.
Kabir 28 saal ka hai aur Pune mein sales ka kaam karta hai. Apne pehle bade unche daur ke baad, usne itni bachat uda di thi jiska wo hisaab nahi de sakta tha, aur apne sabse kareebi logon ko dara diya tha. Use pakka yaqeen tha ki kisi ko bataane se wo kamzor ya bharose ke laayak nahi dikhega. Kai maheenon tak usne kuch nahi kaha, aur ise akele dhota raha.
Aakhir mein jis cheez ne madad ki wo theek hone ka dikhaava karna nahi tha. Wo tha ek bharose ke insaan ko, apni badi behan ko, yeh bataana ki asal mein kya chal raha tha. Sharm kehti hai ise chhipao. Yeh dikkat ujaale mein behtar rehti hai. Usne uske shuruaati sanket pehchanne mein madad ki, aur uska maalik bhi, jab use sirf zaroori baat batayi gayi, uske dar ke waade se kahin zyada samajhdaar nikla.
Paise ki apni ek alag line banti hai, kyunki uncha sira aisa kharch aur jokhim karwa sakta hai jo sthir wale aap kabhi nahi chunte. Yeh swabhaav ki koi kami nahi hai. Yeh is dharre ka ek maana hua hissa hai, aur iske liye pehle se intezaam kiya jaa sakta hai: kisi bharose ke insaan ko pehle se ishaara, sthir rehte hue tay ki gayi aasaan hadein, bade faislon se pehle ek rukaawat rakhi hui.
Mujhe lagta tha ki kisi ko bataane se mera sab kuch chhin jaayega. Use chhipana hi wo cheez thi jisne lagbhag sab kuch chheen hi liya tha.
Kabir, 28
Aur jaanna chahein to
Aap har kisi ko apni pehchaan bataane ke karzdaar nahi hain. Aap chun sakte hain ki kise bataana hai aur kitna. Ek kaam ka niyam: un kuch logon ko bataaiye jo sachmuch madad kar sakte hain. Unhein wo bataaiye jo unhein jaanna zaroori hai, na ki apni poori sehat ki kahaani. Ghar mein ek bharose ka insaan aur, agar aap chahein, kaam par ek, aksar itna hi kaafi hota hai ki ek daur ka anjaam badal jaaye.
Ek aise insaan ka naam lijiye jis par aap apne shuruaati sanketon ke liye bharosa kar sakein. Aapko aaj unse baat karne ki zaroorat nahi hai. Bas tay kijiye ki wo kaun ho sakta hai.
Sharm, aur uske neeche kya hai
Ek pehchaan aapke ek hisse ke baare mein jaankari hai, aapke poore hone par koi faisla nahi. Aap ab bhi wahi poore insaan hain jo aap hamesha se the.
Kai logon ke liye sabse mushkil hissa unche ya neeche daur nahi hain. Wo hai yeh dar ki wo shabd unke baare mein kya kehta hai: ki wo asthir hain, bharose ke laayak nahi hain, ya kisi tarah kam hain. Wo dar samajh mein aata hai, aur wo galat hai. Ek pehchaan ek dharre ko samjhati hai. Yeh aapke hunar, aapke rishte, aapka mazaak, ya aapki keemat ko nahi mitati.
bipolar dimaag ke saath aksar asli taaqatein bhi aati hain: oorja, rachnaatmakta, lagan, gehra ehsaas, tez sochne aur dil se parwah karne ki kaabiliyat. Aap koi sambhaalne laayak khatra nahi hain. Aap ek insaan hain jiski ek dikkat hai jiski dekhbhaal honi hai, aur ye dono bilkul alag cheezein hain.
Kai bhartiya parivaron mein, mansik bimari aaj bhi ek chuppi aur badnaami (kalank) dhoti hai, aur wo chuppi sabse bhaari usi insaan par girti hai jo iske saath jee raha hota hai. Wo badnaami ka dar sanskriti ka purana dar hai, aapke baare mein sach nahi. Dheere-dheere, zyada log seekh rahe hain ki ek ilaaj paayi hui, sahaara paayi hui bipolar zindagi ek bhari-poori zindagi hai, jismein kaam, pyaar, aur parivaar sab hain.
Aur jaanna chahein to
Agar is pehchaan ne ek dukh laaya, to wo dukh jayaz hai. Aur gussa bhi, ya raahat bhi, ya ek saath teenon. Kai log apne us roop ke liye shok manaate hain jo wo samajhne se pehle khud ko maante the. Wo shok kisi zyada narm cheez ki shuruaat bhi ho sakta hai: us dimaag se milna jo sachmuch aapke paas hai, aur usse ladne ke bajaay uski dekhbhaal karna seekhna.
Apne baare mein ek aisi cheez likhiye jiski keemat aap karte hain aur jiska mood ya pehchaan se koi lena-dena nahi hai. Use padhkar waapas dekhiye. Wo bhi sach hai, aur wo poore samay sach thi.
Phir se khade hona
Daur kai logon ke liye is safar ka ek hissa hain, naakami ka saboot nahi. Ubarna asli hai, aur har baar apne pairon par lautna aasaan hota jaata hai.
Ek daur ke baad, kaam narmi se hota hai: pehle neend aur dincharya, phir dheere-dheere baaki sab. Us aawaz se saavdhaan rahiye jo khoye hue waqt ki bharpaai ek hi baar mein karna chahti hai. Wo jaldbaazi aapko seedhe waapas dhakel sakti hai. Sthir, tez se behtar hai. Jo log sabse achha karte hain wo wo nahi hain jo kabhi dagmagaate hi nahi. Wo wo hain jo har baar apni yojna par thoda jaldi laut aate hain.
Phir se bigadna, agar aaye, to wo aap par koi faisla nahi hai. Narmi se waapas lautna, aur yeh bhaashan diye bina ki aapko behtar karna chahiye tha, yahi poora hunar hai.
Wahi dimaag jo door tak jhool sakta hai, dekhbhaal ke saath apna raasta waapas sthir zameen tak bhi paa sakta hai, baar-baar.
Aur jaanna chahein to
bipolar ke saath taraqqi kabhi-kabhaar hi ek seedhi lakeer hoti hai. Kuch mausam yojna tiki rehti hai, kuch mein phisal jaati hai. Yeh ek lambi dikkat ki banaawat hai, is baat ki nishaani nahi ki aap ise galat kar rahe hain. Jo kaam aaya use rakhiye, jo daur nahi chale unhein maaf kar dijiye, aur phir se shuru kijiye. Phir se shuru karna, sthirta ke saath, shoonya se shuru karna nahi hai. Wahi asli kaam hai.
Aapke saath
Agar koi neecha daur kabhi aise khayalon mein badal jaaye ki zindagi jeene laayak nahi hai, ya koi uncha daur kaaboo se bahar lagne lage, to wo pal madad maangne ka hai, akele dhakelte rehne ka nahi. Neeche diya gaya sankat card aise logon se jodta hai jin tak aap kabhi bhi pahunch sakte hain, din ho ya raat.
Aaj raat, ek chhoti cheez likhiye jisne aaj aapko sthir rehne mein madad ki. Ek hafte tak aisa kijiye. Yeh aapki apni sthir-rehne ki yojna ki shuruaat ban jaati hai, aapke apne shabdon mein.
Yeh jaankari kahan se hai
Aur padhne ke liye
Yeh guide samajhne mein madad karti hai. Yeh nidaan nahin hai. Uske liye doctor se milein.