Saathi ki Guide
Substance useJo sharaab ya nasha karta hai, use chaahna
Us saathi ke liye ek garm, kaam ki guide jiska jeevansaathi sharaab ya nashe mein doob chuka hai: chhupane wale phande se kaise niklein, aise madad karein jo kaam aaye, aur khud ka khayaal rakhte hue surakshit rahein.
Pattern ko ek naam dena
Agar aapke saathi ka peena ya nasha karna poore ghar par haavi ho gaya hai, aur aap tane hue, chaukanne, aur yeh tay na kar paane ki haalat mein aa gaye hain ki dikkat unki hai ya aapki, to is pattern ko ek naam dene se aksar ek chupchaap raahat milti hai. Aap kuch mann se nahi gadh rahe, aur aap akele bhi nahi hain.
Ab tak aap iska aakaar pehchanne lage hain. Raat-raat bhar jaagkar intezaar karna. Hisaab rakhna. Ek achhi-bhali shaam ka pal bhar mein bigad jaana. Aap unke mood ko aise bhaanpte hain jaise log mausam ko bhaanpte hain, aur kahin beech raaste mein aap yeh pakka maanna hi chhod baithe ki musibat unki thi ya koi galti aap kar rahe the.
Yeh jaanne mein sach mein raahat hai ki iska ek naam hai. Jo ho raha hai use ek naam dena hi is dhundh se bahar nikalne ka pehla kadam hai. Isse aap yeh poochna chhod paate hain ki kya yeh aapki galti hai, aur yeh poochna shuru karte hain ki asal mein kis cheez se madad milti hai. Aapke saathi ke saath theek-theek kya ho raha hai, yeh sirf ek doctor hi pakke taur par bata sakte hain, aur yeh kitaab un par koi label nahi lagati. Yeh isliye hai taaki aap pattern ko saaf dekh sakein aur aise jawaab de sakein jo sach mein kaam aaye.
Aap thake-haare mehsoos karne par kamzor nahi hain, aur yeh aap mein kisi kami ki wajah se nahi hua. Sharaab ki dikkat ke saath jee rahe 200 Bhartiya parivaaron par hue ek adhyayan mein, saathi aur doosre nazdeeki rishtedaar ek asli, naapa ja sakne wala bojh dho rahe the: paison ki chinta, bigdi hui roz ki dincharya, agle haadse ke ird-gird dhala hua ghar, aur jitni gambheer dikkat, utna hi bhaari yeh bojh. Yeh aap mein koi khot nahi hai. Yeh wahi hai jo is haalat ke itne paas rehne se hota hai, aur yeh badal sakta hai, bas ek baar aap ise dekh paayein.
Priya ki shaadi Sameer se aath saal pehle hui thi. Woh dariyadil aur mazaakiya hain, har mehfil ki jaan. Par peena dheere-dheere bheetar ghusa, aur phir usne kabza kar liya. Priya hi woh hai jo kami ko poora karti hai, rishtedaron ke saamne bahane banati hai, bachchon se ise chhipati hai, aur darwaaze ki aahat ke liye jaagti padi rehti hai. In dinon woh yeh bata hi nahi paati ki unki dikkat kahaan khatm hoti hai aur uski apni thakaan kahaan se shuru hoti hai.
Priya ne kuch galat nahi kiya, aur dil se dekhein to Sameer ne bhi nahi. Woh jo dho rahi hai, woh asli hai, aur woh jisse Sameer joojh rahe hain, woh bhi. Yeh ek pattern hai, aur pattern badal sakte hain, bas ek baar aap unhe saaf dekh paayein.
Do din ke liye, bas dekhiye, usi pal mein baat uthaaye bina. Tanaav kab chadhta hai, shaamon ko, paison ko lekar, ghar ke aayojanon par? Aap dono kab halka aur kareeb mehsoos karte hain? Aap abhi kuch theek nahi kar rahe. Aap apne hi chakra ka aakaar seekh rahe hain.
Bimaari, aur woh insaan
Yeh ek sehat se judi haalat hai jo badal deti hai ki dimaag chaahne aur rukne ko kaise sambhalta hai. Toote hue waade isi bimaari ka kaam hain, is baat ka saboot nahi ki aap maayne nahi rakhte. Aapne ise paida nahi kiya, aap ise theek nahi kar sakte, par aap apna hissa badal sakte hain aur madad kar sakte hain.
Yahaan woh baat hai jo ek baar aap dono ke maanne par sab kuch badal deti hai. Yeh ek aisi haalat hai jo badal deti hai ki dimaag chaahne aur rukne ko kaise sambhalta hai, isliye insaan peeta ya nasha karta rehta hai, bhale hi iski keemat use woh cheezen aur woh log chukane padein jinhe woh pyaar karta hai. Baar-baar usi ki or lautna is baare mein koi sandesh nahi ki woh aapse kitna pyaar karta hai. Yeh bimaari ka kaam hai, aap par koi faisla nahi.
Yeh ek pehchani hui, ilaaj-layak sehat ki haalat hai, kamzori nahi aur aapko dukh dene ke liye kiya hua koi chunaav nahi. Ise is tarah dekhna bahane banana nahi hai. Yeh us sharm ko kam karta hai jo itne parivaaron ko chup rakhti hai, aur yeh us sacche, zyada naram nazariye ka darwaaza kholta hai: aapne ise paida nahi kiya, aap ise kaabu nahi kar sakte, aur aap ise theek nahi kar sakte, par aap apna hissa badal sakte hain, aur aap madad kar sakte hain.
Jis din main samjhi ki peena woh bimaari thi jo use waapas kheench rahi thi, na ki woh mujh par use chun raha tha, us din maine har toote waade ko is baat ka saboot maanna chhod diya ki main maayne nahi rakhti.
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Yeh isliye maayne rakhta hai ki ilzaam kya karta hai. Jab peena aise padha jaaye ki "use parwaah hi nahi", to har toota waada ek zakhm jaisa lagta hai, aur aap aur kade hokar khud ko bachate hain. Jab yeh aise padha jaaye ki "bimaari ne use jakad rakha hai", to aap ek-doosre ke aamne-saamne khade hone ke bajaaye dikkat ke ek hi taraf khade ho sakte hain.
Kayi Bhartiya gharon mein faisla jaldi aa jaata hai, rishtedaron se, sasuraal waalon se, kabhi-kabhi khud aapke apne mann ke bheetar se: woh kamzor hai, use ise behtar sambhalna chaahiye, dekho doosre jodon ko kitna aasaan hai. Woh faisla bhaari hai aur woh galat hai. Kyunki yeh ek sehat ki haalat hai, iska ilaaj maujood hai aur theek hona mumkin hai, aur ise is tarah dekhna hi woh jagah hai jahaan se sharm uthni shuru hoti hai.
Yaad rakhiye
Vyavhaar poora insaan nahi hai. Toote waade, baar-baar usi ki or lautna, mood ka upar-neeche hona, ye us haalat ke lakshan hain, is baare mein ishaare nahi ki aapka saathi aapse kitna pyaar karta hai. Ise chupchaap, apne aap se, naam dena sabse kathin palon ki chubhan kam kar deta hai.
Aur jaanna chahein to
Ise ek bimaari ki tarah dekhne ka matlab yeh nahi ki aap har baat maaf kar dein ya yeh dikhava karein ki aap par jo bojh hai woh asli nahi. Iska matlab hai ki aap ek gadhe hue kirdaar se ladna band kar dete hain aur ek aisi dikkat par kaam karne lagte hain jise aap sach mein baant sakte hain. "Isne tumhe jakad rakha hai, aur main thak gayi hoon, to chalo iska saamna saath milkar karte hain", yeh vaakya hai jiske saath aap dono khade ho sakte hain. "Tumne sab barbaad kar diya" aisa nahi hai.
Woh phanda jo aap dono ko thaka deta hai
Kayi jode ek phande mein phans jaate hain: woh peete ya nasha karte hain, aap use dhakte ya samette hain, haadsa guzar jaata hai, shaanti laut aati hai, aur phir wahi dohrata hai. Har chakkar aap dono ko thaka deta hai. Is phande ko naam dena hi woh tareeka hai jisse aap dhoondh paate hain ki kahaan aap alag kadam rakh sakte hain.
Yeh phanda chupchaap aur nekneeyat wala hai, aur yahi wajah hai ki ise pehchanna itna mushkil hota hai. Woh peete ya nasha karte hain. Aap kami ko poora karte hain, ya rishtedaron ke saamne bahana banate hain, ya jo toota-foota use samette hain, kyunki kisi ko to karna hi hai. Haadsa guzar jaata hai aur kuch der ke liye shaanti laut aati hai. Aur phir wahi dohrata hai, aur har chakkar aap dono ko thoda aur thaka deta hai.
Kami poori karna, bachchon se chhipana, ya unka karza chuka dena pyaar jaisa lag sakta hai. Par yeh aksar woh swaabhaavik nateeje hata deta hai jo shayad unhe madad ki or le jaate. Is phande ko khulkar, pehle khud se, naam dena aapko yeh dekhne deta hai ki kahaan aap alag kadam rakh sakte hain. Aap unka hissa kaabu nahi kar sakte, sirf apna.
- Woh peete ya nasha karte hain, aur haadsa aa jaata hai.
- Aap use dhakte hain, bahane banate hain, ya gandagi samette hain.
- Haadsa guzar jaata hai aur kuch der shaanti laut aati hai.
- Yeh phir hota hai, kyunki bheetar kuch nahi badla, aur yeh dobara shuru ho jaata hai.
Har mood par nazar rakhna, phoonk-phoonkkar kadam rakhna, aur agle haadse ke liye khud ko kaskar taiyaar rakhna thaka dene wala hai, aur waqt ke saath yeh chupchaap aapki apni sehat ko nuksaan pahuncha sakta hai. Paison ki tangi aur aise saathi se chot khaana jo peeta hai, in dono ka saath rehne wale insaan ke liye asli takleef aur ghatti hui bhalaai se naata hai. Is phande ko dekh lena hi aadhe se zyada raah hai. Aapke paas pyaar ki dikkat utni nahi jitni ek pattern ki dikkat hai, aur pattern ko badalna charitra badalne se kahin zyada aasaan hai.
Aur jaanna chahein to
Dhyaan deejiye ki aap dono is phande mein kahaan ghuste hain. Unka ghusne ka sira hai haadsa; aapka hai woh pal jab aap dhakne, samette, ya baat ko sambhalne ke liye aage badhte hain. Aap is haalat ko gayab nahi kar sakte, par aap is kadi mein apna kadam badal sakte hain, aur yahi akele poori baat ko dheema kar sakta hai. Jab ek insaan apna purana hissa nibhaana band kar deta hai, to phande ki lay toot jaati hai. Yeh unhe chhod dena nahi hai. Yeh apna kadam waapas apne haath mein lena hai.
Agli baar jab aapko lage ki phanda shuru ho raha hai, ise dheere se, apne aap se, khulkar naam deejiye: "Hum phir usi chakra mein hain." Phir ek sawaal poochiye: kya koi ek cheez hai jise main aam taur par jhat se theek karne daudti hoon, jise main is baar, bina khatre ke, waisa hi rehne de sakti hoon? Aap nirdayi nahi ho rahin. Aap ek aise kadam se bahar nikal rahi hain jo kabhi madadgaar tha hi nahi.
Bhaashan se behtar hai garm aur tika rehna
Garm, tiki hui, sharminda na karne wali baat bhaashanon, dhamkiyon, ya nashe mein doobe insaan se behas karne se behtar kaam karti hai. Kisi shaant, hosh wale pal ka intezaar keejiye, aur insaan se baat keejiye, dikkat se nahi.
Sabse tagdi madad koi bhaashan, dhamki, ya darwaaze par nashe mein dhut insaan se ladaai nahi hai. Yeh garm, tiki hui, sharminda na karne wali baat hai, jo kisi shaant aur hosh wale pal ke liye chuni gayi ho. Insaan se baat keejiye, dikkat se nahi. Badi-badi maangon ke bajaaye chhoti, saaf baatein rakhiye, aur sirf bure dinon ko ginaane ke bajaaye hosh wale dinon ko khulkar saraahiye.
Nazdeeki parivaar kaise jawaab deta hai, yeh sach mein maayne rakhta hai, aur ise seekha ja sakta hai. Ek aisa saath dene wala tareeka jo hosh ke waqt ko saraahta hai aur peene ko dhakne se peechhe hatta hai, isne insaan ke sach mein ilaaj tak pahunchne ki sambhavna ko kuch naya na karne ke muqaable lagbhag doguna kar dikhaya hai. Aap saath milkar is haalat ka saamna karne wali ek team hain, virodhi nahi.
Kuch hi kadam zyadatar wazan uthate hain. Shaant, hosh wale pal ka intezaar keejiye. Badi-badi dhamkiyon ke bajaaye chhoti, saaf baatein rakhiye. Hosh wale dinon ki khulkar taareef keejiye, kyunki aap jis par dhyaan dete hain woh badhta jaata hai. Aur har gandagi ko jhat se theek karne ke bajaaye imaandaar nateejon ko tika rehne deejiye, kyunki yeh theek karna hi aksar woh cheez hai jo phande ko ghumaaye rakhti hai.
Yaad rakhiye
Darwaaza khula rakhiye, gidgidaaiye mat. Gusse mein di gayi dhamki darwaaza band kar deti hai; ek tika hua, garm nyota use khula rakhta hai. "Main chaahti hoon ki tum theek ho jao, aur jab bhi tum taiyaar hoge, main wahaan tak pahunchne mein tumhari madad karungi", yeh kisi bhi dhamki se zyada taakatwar hai. Jo hosh ka waqt aap dekhein use saraahiye, aur peene ko uska apna swaabhaavik bojh khud uthaane deejiye.
Is hafte, ek hosh wali shaam pakdiye aur uske baare mein kuch garm aur saaf kahiye, "aakhirkaar" nahi, bas "aaj raat tumhaara yahaan hona achha laga". Dhyaan deejiye ki peene ke baare mein hamesha wali baatcheet se yeh kitna alag lagta hai, aap dono ke liye.
Aapki apni zindagi bhi maayne rakhti hai
Aap unke saathi hain, unke therapist ya unke bachaane wale nahi. Aapko ek zindagi ka haq hai, neend, dostiyaan, aur aisi yojnayein jo unke agle haadse ke ird-gird na ghoomein. Apna khayaal rakhna oxygen mask hai, swaarth nahi.
Aap unke saathi hain, unke therapist nahi aur unke bachaane wale nahi, aur aapko ek zindagi ka haq hai. Neend, dostiyaan, aur aisi yojnayein jo agle haadse ke ird-gird na ghoomein, ye aisho-aaraam nahi hain. Apna khayaal rakhna oxygen mask hai, swaarth nahi. Jo saathi is haalat ke baare mein jaante hain aur apne liye bhi sahaara jutate hain, woh apni behtar maansik sehat aur zyada tike hue ghar ki baat karte hain, peene mein badlaav aane se pehle hi.
Hadein saza nahi hotin. Ye woh lakeer hain jo aapko aur bachchon ko bachati hain, jaise peene ke liye paise na dena, ya jab baat daraawni hone lage tab kamre mein na rukna. Ek had woh cheez hai jise aap apne liye nibhaati hain, koi dhamki nahi jo aap un par taange rakhein. "Main peene ke liye paise nahi dungi" ek jaayaz lakeer hai, aur ek zyada jaayaz ghar aam taur par usi lakeer ke us paar se shuru hota hai.
Kayi Bhartiya gharon mein poora parivaar us ek tike hue insaan par tika hota hai, aur agar woh aap hain, to bojh chupchaap kayi guna ho jaata hai. Rishtedaar saara sambhalna aapke haath mein thama sakte hain aur phir aap kaise sambhalti hain is par faisla suna sakte hain, ya aapse ise chhipaaye rakhne ko keh sakte hain. Aapko har baatcheet jeetni zaroori nahi. Ek chhoti, tiki hui lakeer madad karti hai: "Hum ise apne tareeke se sambhaal rahe hain." Phir apni zindagi ka ek kona aisa rakhiye jo sirf aapka ho, koi dost, koi sair, koi aisi cheez jo aap kisi aur ke liye nahi, sirf apne liye karti hain.
Aur jaanna chahein to
Jin logon par aap bharosa karti hain un par tek lagaaiye, kisi parivaar-sahaara samooh par, ya apne liye kisi counselor par. Ise chupchaap akele dhona ise dhone ka sabse bhaari aur sabse kam kaam aane wala tareeka hai. Kisi aise insaan se jo faisla nahi sunata, mushkil hissa khulkar keh dena seene se wazan utaar deta hai, aur aksar yahi pehli jagah hoti hai jahaan aap sunti hain ki ismein kuch bhi aapki galti nahi thi. Kadwaahat aur tanhaai dono chuppi mein panapti hain, aur ek baar aap ise poori tarah akele dhona chhod dein, to inmein se koi bhi zyada der tikta nahi.
Is hafte, ek aisi cheez chuniye jo sirf aapke liye ho, kisi kitaab ke saath aadha ghanta, kisi dost ko ek call, phone ke bina ek sair, aur use bina apraadh-bodh ya maafi ke leejiye. Dhyaan deejiye ki ghar bikhar nahi jaata, aur aap jitne sabr ke saath gayi theen, usse thode zyada sabr ke saath lautti hain.
Kab kadam uthana hai, aur kiski or mudna hai
Kuch ishaare kehte hain ki abhi kadam uthaiye: apni zindagi khatm karne ki baat, kam karne ke dauraan gehri uljhan ya daure, behosh hokar theek se na jaagna, ya aap ya bachchon ke saath hinsa. Inhe taalkar mat baithiye. Muft, chaubeeson ghante madad bas ek phone call door hai.
Kuch ishaare kehte hain ki abhi kadam uthaiye, baad mein nahi. Apni zindagi khatm karne ki baat. Kam karne ke dauraan gehri uljhan, kampkampi, ya daure. Behosh hokar theek se na jaagna. Ya aap ya bachchon ke saath kisi bhi tarah ki hinsa. Inhe taalkar mat baithiye. Peena kisi saathi se chot khaane se gehraai se juda hai, isliye agar aap ya aapke bachche kabhi bhi asurakshit mehsoos karein, to aapki suraksha pehle aati hai: ek yojna rakhiye, ek bandha hua bag, aur ek bharosemand insaan jis tak aap jaldi pahunch sakein.
Aapko sahi shabd jaanna ya ise akele sambhalna zaroori nahi. Aap Tele-MANAS ko 14416 par call kar sakti hain, muft, kisi bhi waqt, Bharat mein kahin se bhi, ek trained counselor se apne liye baat karne ya yeh poochne ke liye ki unki madad kaise karein. Kisi fauri aapat haalat mein, 112 par call keejiye. Unke liye madad maangna koi dhokha nahi hai. Yeh aksar woh sabse pyaar bhari aur sabse asardaar cheez hai jo ek saathi kar sakta hai.
Aapke saath
Agar aapka saathi surakshit nahi hai, ya yeh baat kar raha hai ki woh yahaan nahi rehna chaahta, ya agar aap ya bachche kabhi dare hue hon, to Tele-MANAS ko 14416 par call keejiye, yeh Bharat ki muft rashtriya maansik sehat helpline hai, din ho ya raat, kayi bhashaon mein, aapke liye ya unke liye. Kisi aapat haalat mein 112 par call keejiye. Neeche juda hua sankat card aur bhi aise logon ke naam deta hai jin tak aap kisi bhi waqt pahunch sakti hain.
Ilaaj aur dava ka kya? Ek doctor ya nasha-mukti seva yeh raah dikha sakti hai ki aage kya aata hai, aur kuch logon ke liye, jab dikkatein badi hon, to koi dava jis par doctor vichaar kar sakte hain, us yojna ka ek hissa hoti hai. Yeh doctor ke saath milkar liya gaya faisla hai, har maamle mein counselling aur un roz ke kadmon ke saath taulkar jo aap saath milkar uthate hain, kabhi apne-aap uthne wala kadam nahi aur kabhi poora jawaab nahi. Ek achha doctor ise ek badi yojna ke ek hisse ki tarah dekhta hai aur waqt ke saath ise parakhta rehta hai.
Yaad rakhiye
Aap unka poora ilaaj nahi ban saktin, aur aapko aisa banna kabhi tha bhi nahi. Aapka tika rehna madad karta hai, par ek doctor aur ek nasha-mukti seva woh hisse uthate hain jo aap nahi utha saktin. Is haalat ka saamna ek team ki tarah keejiye, madad ka darwaaza khula rakhiye, aisa karte hue apna khayaal rakhiye, aur jaldi haath badhaaiye. Yeh haar maanna nahi hai. Yahi woh tareeka hai jisse aap dono aur mazboot hote hain.
Jis saathi ko peena door kheench le jaata hai, wahi woh insaan bhi ho sakta hai jo us zindagi mein laut aaye jise aap saath bana rahe hain, ek baar aap ek-doosre se ladna chhodkar is haalat ka saamna saath milkar karne lagein.
Aaj raat, ek cheez ka naam leejiye jo aapke saathi ne aaj achhi ki, chaahe kitni hi chhoti ho, aur agar karna surakshit ho, to use khulkar unse kahiye. Phir ek cheez likh leejiye jo aap kisi doctor ya nasha-mukti seva se poochna chaahengi, aur use apne phone mein rakhiye. Do chhote kadam, ek ek-doosre ki or aur ek madad ki or, isi tarah woh lambi raah shuru hoti hai.
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