The Carer series
Sharaab aur nashe ka istemaalJab aapka koi apna pee raha ho ya nasha kar raha ho
Parivaaron ke liye garm guide: apne ka peena ya nasha karna ek ilaaj hone layak samasya hai, aapki galti nahi; aur kab doctor zaroori hai.
Yeh na koi buraai hai, na aapki galti
Kisi apne ka sharaab ya nasha karna ek aisi sehat ki samasya hai jiska ilaaj ho sakta hai, na unki kamzori, na aapki naakaami. Yeh dimaag ke inaam wale hisse ko badal deta hai, isiliye sirf behes aur mehnat se yeh khatm nahi hota. Ek saadharan baat aapko sambhaal sakti hai: na aapne ise shuru kiya, na aap ise rok sakte hain, na aap ise theek kar sakte hain, par aap apna hissa badal sakte hain aur aap madad kar sakte hain.
Aapne shayad sab kuch karke dekh liya hai. Samjhana, gidgidaana, dhamkaana, khud par sab le lena. Aap raat-raat bhar jaagkar sochte rahe hain ki aapse kya galti hui. Is sabke peechhe ka pyaar saccha hai. Aur thakaan bhi sacchi hai.
Ab woh baat jo bojh halka kar deti hai. Nashe ki lat ek maani hui sehat ki samasya hai jo samay ke saath dimaag ke inaam wale hisse ko badal deti hai. Isiliye aap ise aur sakhti ya aur chaturaai se khatm nahi kar sakte, isliye nahi ki aapne unhe kaafi pyaar nahi kiya. Na aapne ise shuru kiya, na aap ise rok sakte hain, na aap ise theek kar sakte hain. Par aap apna hissa badal sakte hain, aur aap madad kar sakte hain.
Aur yeh usse kahin zyada aam hai jitna zyadatar parivaar kabhi khulkar kehte hain.
Aur jaanna chahein to
Woh teen baatein, ki na aapne ise shuru kiya, na rok sakte hain, na theek kar sakte hain, haar maan lene ka tareeka nahi hain. Ye apni mehnat wahaan lagaane ka tareeka hain jahaan woh sachmuch kaam kare. Aap ek bimaari se behes jeetne ki koshish chhod dete hain, aur ve kaam karne lagte hain jo sachmuch paasa palatte hain: aap kaise baat karte hain, kya uthaana band karte hain, khud ko kaise khada rakhte hain, aur unhe asli ilaaj tak pahunchne mein kaise madad karte hain. Yeh ek chauthi baat hai jise thaame rakhna theek hai. Aap madad kar sakte hain.
Yeh ek baar saaf shabdon mein kahiye, ho sake to zor se: yeh ek sehat ki samasya hai, aur yeh meri galti nahi hai. Dhyaan deejiye ki yeh us saare ilzaam se kitna alag lagta hai jo aap ab tak dhote rahe hain. Aapko woh hissa rakh dene ka haq hai jo kabhi aapka theek karne ka tha hi nahi, aur woh hissa apne paas rakhne ka jo aap sachmuch kar sakte hain.
Ande ke chhilkon par chalna, aur woh jhoola
Kisi ke peene ya nasha karne ke saath rehna poore parivaar par bhaari padta hai. Toote hue waade, phoonk-phoonk kar kadam rakhna, oonch-neech, yeh sab aapko pareshaan, udaas, aur thaka hua chhod sakta hai. Apni sehat aur suraksha ka dhyaan rakhna swaarth nahi hai. Yeh is sabse nipatne ka ek hissa hai, usse bhatakna nahi.
Aap shayad us jhoole ko achhi tarah jaante hain. Woh achha daur jab aap khud ko ummeed rakhne dete hain. Phir wahi phislan, toota waada, woh jhooth jise dono andekha karne ka dikhaava karte hain. Darwaaze par aate waqt unke mood ko baareeki se padhna, yeh tay karte hue ki aaj shaam kaun-sa roop milne wala hai. Mahinon-saalon mein, woh chauksi insaan ko ghis daalti hai. Aapki apni neend, mood, aur sehat iski keemat chukate hain.
Do aisi baaton ka farq jaanna kaam aata hai jo pyaar jaisi dikhti hain par bahut alag dhang se chalti hain. Madad karna insaan ko sahaara deta hai; unhe har nateeje se bacha lena chupchaap sharaab ya nashe ko bane rehne mein madad deta hai. Karz chuka dena, unki taraf se chhutti ki khabar bhej dena, har gadbadi ko sambhaal lena, yeh sab pyaar se aata hai, aur yeh sab wahi dabaav hata sakta hai jo shayad unhe madad ki or le jaata.
Iska matlab yeh nahi ki aap rookhe ho jaayein ya unhe chhod dein. Iska matlab hai us bhoomika se bahar nikalna jo samasya ko aaraam mein rakhti hai. Aap kisi ko poore dil se chaah sakte hain aur phir bhi peene ke baad ki safaai karna band kar sakte hain. Aap garmjoshi se pesh aa sakte hain aur phir bhi ek swaabhaavik nateeje ko aane de sakte hain. Maqsad saza dena nahi hai. Maqsad woh gadda banna band karna hai jo bimaari ko kabhi zameen chhue bina chalte rehne deta hai.
- Madad karna: garmjoshi rakhiye, suniye, aur ilaaj ki or badhe kisi bhi kadam ki taareef kijiye.
- Madad karna: swaabhaavik nateejon ko apne oopar lene ke bajaaye aane dijiye.
- Gadda banna: karz, jhooth, aur chhoote kaam ko dhak dena taaki kuch na badle.
- Gadda banna: shaanti banaaye rakhne ke liye gharwaalon aur boss se bahaane banaana.
Yaad
Aap kisi ko chaah sakte hain aur phir bhi samasya ko aaraam mein rakhne se inkaar kar sakte hain. Gadde wali bhoomika se bahar nikalna un gini-chuni cheezon mein se ek hai jo sachmuch aapke haath mein hai, aur yeh rookhapan nahi, balki dekhbhaal ka ek kaam hai.
Aise baat kijiye ki ve sachmuch sun sakein
Aap baat kaise uthate hain, yeh maayne rakhta hai, aur ise seekha ja sakta hai. Garmjoshi se, shaant, bina takraav wali baat ek hichkichaate insaan ko takraav ya dhamkiyon ke muqaable kahin zyada baar madad tak le aati hai. Aap koi dangal nahi rach rahe. Aap darwaaza khula rakh rahe hain, aur usmein se guzarna aasaan bana rahe hain, mushkil nahi.
Takraana, nuqsaan ginaana, sach ke saath unhe gher lena, yeh sab swaabhaavik lagta hai. Diqqat yeh hai ki gherna aksar bachaav karaane lagta hai, aur baat is par aa jaati hai ki kaun sahi hai, bajaaye iske ki madad kaise mile. Ek aazmaaya hua, naram tareeka hai. Jab gharwaale ghar par baat karne ke sakaaratmak, bina takraav wale tareeke seekhte hain, to unke hichkichaate apne kahin zyada baar ilaaj mein aate hain, banisbat un parivaaron ke jo takraate hain ya bas doori bana lete hain, aur gharwaale khud bhi behtar mehsoos karte hain.
Iska dhaancha seedha hai. Unki khaamiyon se nahi, apne anubhav se boliye. Yeh kahiye ki aapko kya mehsoos hota hai aur aap kya chaahte hain, yeh nahi ki unmein kya galat hai. "Jab shaamein yoon hi nikal jaati hain to mujhe aapki kami khalti hai" yeh "tumne ek aur raat barbaad kar di" se bahut alag asar chhodta hai. Theek us ek baat ka naam lijiye, chhoti rakhiye, aur uske peechhe garmjoshi aur ek saaf, karne layak peshkash rakhiye.
Aadha kaam waqt ka hai. Mushkil baatein tab uthaaiye jab ve hosh mein hon aur ghar mein shaanti ho, na ki behes ke beech ya jab unhone nasha kiya ho. Ek baat chuniye, shikaayaton ki poori fehrist nahi. Aakhir mein kisi shart ke bajaaye ek khula darwaaza chhodiye: "Jab bhi aap is baare mein kisi se baat karne ke liye taiyaar hon, main aapke saath chaloonga." Aap ise yoon hi jaane nahi de rahe. Aap madad ka raasta chhota aur roshan bana rahe hain.
Agli mushkil baatcheet se pehle, ek chhoti "main" wali line likh leejiye: "Mujhe ... mehsoos hota hai aur main chaahoonga ki ..." Ise khud ke baare mein rakhiye, unki khaamiyon ke baare mein nahi, aur ek hi baat tak rakhiye. Yeh taiyaar hone se woh pal aane par shaant rehna kahin aasaan ho jaata hai.
Jab ve madad se inkaar karein
Inkaar raaste ka ant nahi hai, aur yeh unhe chupke se dava dena shuru karne ki wajah bhi nahi hai. Ek aazmaaya hua raasta hai jismein chhipaav ki zaroorat nahi: garmjoshi se, sakaaratmak baat karte rahiye, ilaaj ka darwaaza khula rakhiye, aur is beech nuqsaan kam karte rahiye. Unke khaane ya peene mein dava chhipaana bharosa todta hai, khatarnaak ho sakta hai, aur is samasya ka ilaaj nahi karta.
Kayi parivaar us mod par pahunchte hain jahaan insaan bas na keh deta hai. Us thake hue pal mein, kuch parivaar chupke se dava dene lagte hain, khaane ya chaay mein milaakar. Yeh saaf keh dena theek hai ki yeh ek jaani-pehchaani kamzori kyun hai: chhipaakar dava dena Bharatiya dekhbhaal mein ek asli aur darj ki hui baat hai. Maansik sehat ki ek gambheer samasya wale apne ki dekhbhaal kar rahe parivaaron ke ek adhyayan mein, unmein se kareeb teen mein se ek ne kam se kam ek baar chhipaakar dava di thi. Agar aapne iske baare mein socha hai, to aap bure insaan nahi hain. Aap ek thake hue insaan hain.
Par imaandaar raasta behtar hai, aur saaf wajahon se behtar hai. Chhipaakar dava dena, agar kabhi pata chal jaaye to bharosa todta hai, doctor ki nazar ke bina khatarnaak ho sakta hai, aur apne aap unhe ilaaj mein nahi laata. Ek aazmaaya hua dusra raasta hai jo aapse kisi ko dhokha dene ko nahi kehta. Wahi garmjoshi se, sakaaratmak baat karne ka tareeka jo ek taiyaar insaan ki madad karta hai, ek hichkichaate insaan ke liye bhi paasa palatta hai, doori banaane ya ladaai chhedne se kahin zyada.
- Jude rahiye: garmjoshi se baat karte rahiye; unhe chhodiye mat ya saza mat dijiye.
- Poochhiye, gheriye mat: madad ki peshkash saaf rakhiye, phir faisla unhin ka rehne dijiye.
- Darwaaza khula rakhiye: "Jab bhi aap taiyaar hon, main aapke saath chaloonga."
- Nuqsaan kam kijiye aur chupke se dava dene ke bajaaye doctor tak pahunchaaiye.
Aur jaanna chahein to
Darwaaza khula rakhna sharaab ya nashe ko manzoori dena nahi hai. Aap poori tarah saaf reh sakte hain ki aap chaahte hain ki ve madad lein, aur phir bhi jab ve taiyaar hon to use qubool karna jitna mumkin ho utna aasaan bana sakte hain. Bahut se log paanch baar inkaar karte hain aur chhathi baar haan keh dete hain. Beech ka kaam nokjhonk nahi hai. Woh rishte mein bane rehna hai, us khule pal ka intezaar karna hai, aur jab woh aaye to ek asli, thos agle kadam ke saath taiyaar rehna hai, doctor ka naam, appointment, saath chalne ki peshkash.
Suraksha ki ek baat
Kisi ko kabhi zor dekar achaanak bhaari sharaab chhodne, ya neend ya pareshaani ki goliyaan chhodne ko mat kahiye, akele apne aap ek saath. Inhe achaanak chhodne se daure aur ek khatarnaak haalat ho sakti hai jiske liye aspataal ki zaroorat hoti hai. Yahaan madad yeh hai ki unhe surakshit roop se chhudaane ke liye doctor tak pahunchaaya jaaye. Agar aap anishchit ya pareshaan hon, to aap Tele-MANAS, muft rashtriya helpline, ko 14416 par call kar sakte hain, kisi bhi waqt, din ho ya raat.
Khud ka aur baaki parivaar ka dhyaan rakhna
Khaali bartan se aap kisi ko nahi pila sakte. Aapka apna aaraam, sahaara, aur suraksha koi aisi cheezen nahi jinhe unke theek hone ke baad dekha jaaye. Ye is baat ka hissa hain ki yeh parivaar isse kaise paar paata hai. Khud ka dhyaan rakhna hi woh cheez hai jo aapko unka dhyaan rakhte rehne deti hai, aur baaki parivaar ko bhi sambhaal ki zaroorat hai.
Hawaai jahaaz mein aapse kaha jaata hai ki kisi aur ki madad karne se pehle apna oxygen mask laga lein, kyunki behosh hokar aap unke kisi kaam ke nahi. Yahaan bhi yahi sach hai. Mahinon ki chauksi, tooti neend, aur ruki saans ka ek asli asar padta hai, aur khud thaka-haara dekhbhaal karne wala kisi ke liye mazbooti se khada nahi reh sakta. Apni sehat ki hifaazat karna unse munh modna nahi hai. Lambi daud mein unke liye wahaan rehne ka yahi ekmaatra tareeka hai.
Yeh saadharan aur chhota dikh sakta hai. Apni zindagi ka ek hissa sirf apna rakhna, koi dost, ek sair, ek aastha, ek routine. Kisi ko bojh baantne dena, bajaaye iske ki akele chupchaap dhote rahein. Aapki sehat unhe theek karne ka inaam nahi hai. Yeh woh cheez hai jo madad karna mumkin hi banaati hai.
Aapko ek poora insaan hone ka haq hai, sirf ek madadgaar nahi. Wahi parivaar, jo apni zameen thaame rakhta hai, us waqt bhi khada reh paata hai jab woh khula pal aakhirkaar aata hai.
Aur jaanna chahein to
Ghar ke baaki logon ka bhi thoda khayaal rakhiye, khaaskar bachchon ka, jo aksar tanaav ko bina kisi samjhaaye khud mein sokh lete hain. Unhe poori kahaani ki zaroorat nahi, par unhe saaf shabdon mein yeh sunna zaroori hai ki yeh na unki galti hai aur na ise theek karna unka kaam. Parivaar ka sahaara, chaahe koi bharosemand rishtedaar ho, koi samooh ho, ya koi counselor, aap sabke liye hai, sirf nasha karne wale ke liye nahi. Yeh sab aapko akele nahi thaamna hai.
Is hafte ek aisi cheez likh leejiye jo sirf aapke liye ho, chhoti aur karne layak: kisi dost ko ek phone, ek sair, band darwaaze ke peechhe ek ghanta. Phir use sachmuch kijiye, isse pehle ki aapko lage ki aapne ise kamaaya hai. Dhyaan deejiye ki jab aapne saans li, parivaar bikhra nahi.
Mushkil pal aur suraksha
Kuch pal abhi doctor maangte hain, baad mein nahi. Nashe ki zyada maatra ke sanket, ya sharaab ya neend ya pareshaani ki goliyon se tez nikaasi ke sanket, ye aapaat sthitiyaan hain. Khatre ke sanket jaaniye, aapaatkaaleen number paas rakhiye, aur yaad rakhiye ki jaldi haath badhaana hamesha mauqe behtar karta hai.
Is guide ka zyadatar hissa us lambe, sabr wale kaam ke baare mein hai. Par kuch haalaat aapaat sthitiyaan hain, aur inhe pehle se jaanne ka matlab hai ki aap jam jaane ke bajaaye harkat mein aate hain. Nashe ki zyada maatra aisi dikh sakti hai: koi aisa jise aap jaga na sakein, saans jo bahut dheemi ho ya ruk gayi ho, ya ek daura. Bhaari sharaab se ya neend ya pareshaani ki goliyon se tez nikaasi aisi dikh sakti hai: buri tarah uljhan, aisi cheezen dikhna jo wahaan hain hi nahi, zor ka kaampna, ya ek daura. Inmein se koi bhi ho to turant doctori madad ke liye bulaaiye; yeh dekhne ke liye mat rukiye ki apne aap theek hota hai ya nahi.
Isiliye kisi ko bhi zor dekar achaanak aur akele bhaari sharaab, ya neend ya pareshaani ki goliyaan chhodne ko nahi kehna chaahiye. Inhe achaanak chhodna apne aap mein khatarnaak ho sakta hai. Surakshit roop se chhodna doctor ke saath kiya jaata hai, jo nikaasi ko aasaan kar sakte hain aur, kuch logon ke liye, saath milkar chuna gaya ilaaj de sakte hain. Jaldi haath badhaana, theek aakhiri pal par nahi, sabse achha mauqa deta hai, aur raah mein beech-beech mein laut aana ek ummeed ki hui, sambhaali ja sakne wali baat hai, koi naakaami nahi.
- Jagaaya na ja sake, ya saans bahut dheemi ho ya ruk gayi ho.
- Ek daura ya jhatka, chaahe zyada maatra mein ho ya nikaasi mein.
- Buri tarah uljhan, zor ka kaampna, ya aisi cheezen dikhna jo wahaan hain hi nahi.
- Shak ho to aapaatkaaleen madad ke liye 112 par call kijiye; intezaar mat kijiye.
Aapke saath
Aapko yeh sab akele sambhaalna nahi hai. Raay ke liye, mushkil pal mein sahaare ke liye, ya bas kisi se baat karne ke liye, aap Tele-MANAS, muft rashtriya maansik-sehat helpline, ko 14416 par call kar sakte hain, kisi bhi waqt, din ho ya raat. Chikitsa aapaat sthiti mein, 112 par call kijiye. Neeche juda hua sankat card aur bhi logon ke naam deta hai jin tak aap pahunch sakte hain.
Aur jaanna chahein to
Lambi nazar ko thaame rakhiye. Aap jo kuch kar sakte hain, uska zyadatar hissa chupchaap wala hai: garmjoshi banaaye rakhna, darwaaza khula rakhna, aur jab ve taiyaar hon tab taiyaar rehna. Unka theek hona unki jagah aap nahi kar sakte. Par parivaar madad ka sabse aam zariya hote hain, aur jo maujoodgi aap banaaye rakhte hain, aksar wahi tab bhi wahaan hoti hai jab ve taiyaar hote hain.
Yeh jaankari kahan se hai
Aur padhne ke liye
Yeh guide samajhne mein madad karti hai. Yeh nidaan nahin hai. Uske liye doctor se milein.