Stigma aur Samaj series
Hum mansik bimaari ko kaise dekhte hainMithak banaam sach: mansik bimaari asal mein kya hai, aur kya nahi
Sach aur mithak alag, aur dost se kya kahein.
Arjun ke dost ne kya sahi kiya
Koi mithak ginaane se pehle, do logon ki baat suniye. Mansik bimaari ke baare mein sach jaanna kaam ka hai, par akele sach se log kaisa mehsoos karte hain, yeh shayad hi badalta hai. Jo cheez badlaav laati hai woh hai kisi asli insaan se milna, aur yeh chhota-sa hunar seekhna ki joojh rahe dost se kya kahein. Yeh guide wahi hunar hai, koi bhaashan nahi.
Arjun 26 saal ka hai aur Pune ke ek chhote daftar mein kaam karta hai. Kuch mahinon se uski neend kharaab chal rahi thi, woh logon par jhalla uthta tha, aur chupchaap har subah se darne laga tha. Uske paas iske liye koi shabd nahi tha, aur use pakka yaqeen tha ki kuch bhi kehna use kamzor dikha dega. Ek shaam ek dost ne bas dhyaan diya. Dost ne bhaashan nahi diya, yeh nahi kaha ki shukr manaao, aur uske paas mansik bimaari ka ek bhi sach rata hua taiyaar nahi tha. Usne bas kaha, "Tum kuch dinon se apne jaise nahi lag rahe. Agar baat karni ho to main yahin hoon."
Us ek vaakya ne kisi bhi parche se zyada kiya. Arjun ne baat ki, phir doctor ko dikhaya, aur dheere-dheere cheezen behtar hueen. Jis cheez ne madad ki woh koi sach nahi tha. Woh ek dost tha jo jaanta tha ki kya kehna hai.
"Usne mujhe theek karne ki koshish nahi ki. Usne bas yeh kehna surakshit bana diya ki main theek nahi hoon. Wahi poora mod tha."
Arjun, 26, Pune
Yeh guide ek insaan se kyun shuru hoti hai
Akele sach se log kaisa mehsoos karte hain, yeh shayad hi badalta hai. Jo cheez logon ko sachmuch chhoo jaati hai woh hai kisi asli insaan se milna aur ek kaam aane wala hunar seekhna. Isiliye yeh guide mithakon ki soochi se nahi, Arjun se shuru hoti hai.
Aur jaanna chahein to
Isiliye mithak aur sach par ek guide kisi soochi se nahi, balki ek insaan se khulti hai. Jin cheezon se soch sachmuch badalti hai, unke adhyayan baar-baar ek hi baat paate hain: kisi aise insaan se milna jisne yeh khud jiya ho, aur ek kaam aane wala hunar seekhna, yeh daant ki tarah parose gaye sach se zyada bharose ke saath logon ko badalta hai. Ek chhote-se saamudaayik abhiyaan ne, jisne logon ko sikhaya ki kya kahein, un logon ki ginti mein tikaau badhotri ki jo maante the ki mansik sehat ki samasya wale dost ko ve salaah dena jaante hain, yeh hunar mein badhat hai, sirf raay ka badalna nahi.
Log kya galat samajhte hain, aur sach kya hai
Mansik bimaari ke kuch mithak itni baar dohraaye jaate hain ki ve aam samajh jaise lagne lagte hain. Ve sach nahi hain, aur ve sachmuch nuqsaan pahunchaate hain. Yahaan sabse bade mithak hain, saaf shabdon mein uske aage rakhe jo saboot asal mein dikhate hain, taaki aapke paas imaandaar wala roop taiyaar rahe.
Sabse zyada nuqsaan pahunchaane wala mithak yeh hai ki mansik bimaari wale log khatarnaak hote hain. Yeh sach ka lagbhag ulta hai. Gambheer mansik bimaari ke saath jeene wale log hinsa ki wajah banne se kahin zyada uske shikaar hote hain. Unhe aam janta se tulna karne wale ek bade adhyayan mein paaya gaya ki chaar mein se ek se zyada log ek hi saal mein kisi hinsak apraadh ke shikaar hue the, yeh baaki sabki dar se kai guna zyada hai, aur ek alag adhyayan mein paaya gaya ki unke khilaaf hinsa aam janta ke muqaable doguni se bhi zyada aam thi. Khatra unki taraf bahta hai, unse nahi.
Baaki mithak kuch zyada chup hain par utne hi bhaari. Ki mansik bimaari kamzori ki nishani hai, ya bure charitra ki, ya bas ichhashakti ki kami ki. Ki yeh "koi asli bimaari hi nahi". Ki insaan kabhi theek nahi ho sakta, shaadi nahi kar sakta, ya naukri nahi kar sakta. Inmein se koi bhi saboot ke saamne tikta nahi. Mansik bimaari ek asli, maani hui sehat ki haalat hai, aur theek hona niyam hai, apwaad nahi. Mithak oonchi aawaaz mein hain, sach dheeme hain, aur sach aapke saath hain.
- Mithak: ve khatarnaak hain. Sach: gambheer haalat wale log hinsa ki wajah banne se kahin zyada aksar uske shikaar hote hain.
- Mithak: yeh kamzori ya bura charitra hai. Sach: yeh ek maani hui sehat ki haalat hai, iraade ki koi khaami nahi.
- Mithak: yeh koi asli bimaari nahi. Sach: yeh soch, mood, ya bartaav mein ek asli gadbadi hai jo dekhbhaal se sudharti hai.
- Mithak: aap kabhi theek nahi ho sakte. Sach: zyadatar log jo dekhbhaal lete hain ve behtar hote hain, aur kai poori tarah theek ho jaate hain.
Aur jaanna chahein to
Dhyaan deejiye ki ye mithak ek hi chaal baantte hain: ve ek sehat ki haalat ko insaan par ek faisle mein badal dete hain. Khatarnaak, kamzor, naqli, beummeed. Inmein se har ek joojh rahe insaan ko chup rehne ko kehta hai. Wahi chuppi asal nuqsaan hai, kyunki yahi logon ko us madad se roke rakhti hai jo kaam karti hai. Kisi mithak ka jawaab zubaan se, narmi se dena, koi behes jeetna nahi hai. Yeh kisi ke liye bolna thoda zyada surakshit banaana hai.
Mansik bimaari asal mein kya hai
Dar hata dein to paribhaasha seedhi hai. Mansik bimaari ek maani hui sehat ki haalat hai: insaan kaise sochta, mehsoos karta, ya bartaav karta hai, ismein ek asli gadbadi, jo aam taur par shareer ki banaavat, zindagi ke tajurbe, aur haalaat ke mel se aati hai. Yeh kamzori, bura charitra, ya koi naitik naakaami nahi hai, aur baaki sehat ki haalaton ki tarah ise samjha aur ilaaj kiya ja sakta hai.
Jab aap afwaah hata dete hain, to jo bachta hai woh aam aur lagbhag saada hai, sabse achhe tareeke se. Mansik bimaari insaan ki soch, bhaavnaon ke santulan, ya bartaav mein ek sach-much ka asli badlaav hai, jo tika rehta hai aur roz ki zindagi mein aade aata hai. Yeh aam taur par kai cheezon ke mel se ugta hai: dimaag aur shareer kaise bane hain, insaan ne kya-kya jiya hai, aur uske ird-gird ke dabaav. Yeh kamzor man, bura charitra, ya koi saza nahi hai.
Yeh durlabh bhi nahi hai. Yeh aam parivaaron ke bheetar baithti hai, unse alag nahi. Bharat ke rashtriya mansik sehat survey ka anumaan tha ki desh mein kareeb 15 crore log kisi mansik sehat ki haalat ke saath jeete hain. Yeh kisi door ke anjaan logon ki samasya nahi hai. Yeh ek dost hai, ek rishtedaar, ek sahkarmi, aapki gali ka koi insaan.
Dost se asal mein kya kahein
Yeh hissa sambhaal kar rakhne layak hai. Kisi dost ka saath dena ek seekhne layak hunar hai, aur kaam ke kadam chhote aur seedhe hain: sunne se shuruaat keejiye, jo aapne dekha use bina faisla sunaaye kahiye, poochiye ki ve sach mein kaise hain, aur ek kaam ka kadam pesh keejiye. Aapko sahi shabdon ki zaroorat nahi. Aapko taiyaar dil ki zaroorat hai.
Jo sabse achhi baat aap keh sakte hain woh aam taur par sabse seedhi hoti hai. Aapko kuch bataane, theek karne, ya jawaab rakhne ki zaroorat nahi. Neeche ke chaar kadam hi zyadatar hunar hain: dhyaan deejiye aur use narmi se kahiye, salaah se zyada suniye, seedhe poochiye ki ve kaise hain aur kya unhone madad lene ke baare mein socha hai, aur ek thos agla kadam pesh keejiye. Chhota, saaf, aur imaandaar, har baar badi-badi tasalli se behtar hai.
Aapko sahi shabdon ki zaroorat nahi. "Maine dekha hai ki tum apne jaise nahi rahe, aur main yahin hoon", dil se kaha gaya, zyadatar kaam hai.
Ek aise insaan ko chuniye jiski aapko thodi fikr rahi hai. Ek seedha vaakya tay keejiye jo aap kahein, kuch aisa "tum kuch dinon se udaas lag rahe ho, bas haal poochna chahta tha." Ise itna hi seedha rakhiye. Poochne ki taiyaari, shabd bilkul sahi pakadne se kahin zyada maayne rakhti hai.
Ve baatein jo darwaaza band kar deti hain
Kuch nek niyat wali baatein chupchaap baatcheet ko band kar deti hain. "Isse bahar aa jaao", "dusron ka haal bura hai", "bas positive raho", "yeh sab tumhare dimaag ka veham hai". Ye aam taur par pyaar se kahi jaati hain, par ek faisle ki tarah lagti hain. Achhi khabar yeh hai ki inmein se har ek ka ek zyada naram, zyada kaam ka badal maujood hai.
Zyadatar bekaar baatein kroor nahi hoteen. Ve aise logon se aati hain jo parwaah karte hain aur nahi jaante ki aur kya kahein. Par "isse bahar aa jaao" insaan se kehta hai ki uski bimaari ek chunaav hai. "Jo hai uske liye shukr manaao" usse kehta hai ki uski bhaavnaayein naashukri hain. "Bas vyast raho aur positive raho" usse kehta hai ki woh galat kar raha hai. Inmein se har ek, chaahe kitne hi pyaar se kahi jaaye, pehle se mushkil cheez par sharmindagi ki ek aur parat jod deti hai, aur sharmindagi hi woh cheez hai jo logon ko chup rakhti hai.
Iska hal script ratna nahi hai. Yeh hai faisle ki jagah ek sawaal rakhna, aur salaah ki jagah saath. Bataane ke bajaaye, poochiye. Theek karne ke bajaaye, saath rahiye. Jab aapko samajh na aaye ki kya kahein, "main yahin hoon, aur main sun raha hoon" lagbhag kabhi galat nahi hota.
- "Isse bahar aa jaao" ke bajaaye, aazmaaiye "yeh sachmuch mushkil lagta hai, mujhe aur batao".
- "Dusron ka haal bura hai" ke bajaaye, aazmaaiye "tum jo mehsoos kar rahe ho woh mere liye maayne rakhta hai".
- "Bas positive raho" ke bajaaye, aazmaaiye "tumhe mere saamne bahana karne ki zaroorat nahi".
- "Tum theek ho jaaoge" ke bajaaye, aazmaaiye "main yahin hoon, aur hum saath milkar agla kadam nikaal sakte hain".
Agar kisi dost ki salaamati ki fikr ho
Agar aapki parwaah wala koi insaan kabhi kahe, ya ishaara kare, ki zindagi jeene layak nahi, to use gambheerta se leejiye aur use uske saath akela mat chhodiye. Aapko ise akele sambhaalna nahi hai. Aap Tele-MANAS, muft rashtriya helpline, ko 14416 par call kar sakte hain, kisi bhi waqt, din ho ya raat, aur neeche juda hua sankat card aur bhi logon ke naam deta hai jin tak aap aur aapka dost fauran pahunch sakte hain.
Agar sirf ek baat yaad rahe
Mansik bimaari aam, asli, aur ilaaj hone layak hai, aur theek hona apwaad nahi, niyam hai. Sabse badi rukaavat bimaari nahi hai. Yeh woh chuppi aur badnaami hai jo logon ko madad se roke rakhti hai. Yahi asal wajah hai ki kya kehna hai yeh jaanna, aur use kehna, koi chhoti baat nahi hai. Yahi to baat hai.
Agar is jaisi guide aapko ek hi sach ke saath chhod sake, to woh yeh hoga: mansik bimaari ka ilaaj ho sakta hai, aur zyadatar log jo dekhbhaal lete hain ve behtar ho jaate hain, phir bhi zyadatar log jinhe isse faayda ho sakta hai ve us dekhbhaal tak kabhi nahi pahunchte. Bharat ke rashtriya survey mein paaya gaya ki mansik sehat ki haalat wale adhiktar logon ko koi ilaaj mil hi nahi raha tha. Yeh khaai toote hue ilaajon se nahi bani. Yeh chuppi se bani hai, faisla sunaaye jaane ka dar, is fikr se ki log kya kahenge.
Ajeeb baat hai ki yahi ummeed wala hissa hai. Chuppi se bani ilaaj ki khaai woh hai jise aam log band karne mein madad kar sakte hain, ek imaandaar baatcheet ek baar mein. Aapko doctor hone ya har sach jaanne ki zaroorat nahi. Aapko woh dost banna hai jo dhyaan deta hai, seedhe poochta hai, aur saath rehta hai. Chuppi ki deewar ka ilaaj ek aisa insaan hai jo bolne ko taiyaar ho.
- Badlaav par dhyaan deejiye, aur use narmi se kahiye, bina faisla sunaaye.
- Salaah se zyada suniye, aur poochiye ki ve sach mein kaise hain.
- "Isse bahar aa jaao" ki jagah "main yahin hoon aur main sun raha hoon" rakhiye.
- Ek kaam ka agla kadam pesh keejiye, aur Tele-MANAS 14416 apni jeb mein rakhiye.
Yaad
Aap hamesha ise poori tarah sahi nahi keh paayenge, aur aapko zaroorat bhi nahi. Mithak chuppi ke bharose jeete hain; aap unhe bas baat karne aur sunne ko taiyaar rehkar tod dete hain. Ek dost jo dhyaan deta hai aur saath rehta hai, hummein se zyadatar log jitna sochte hain usse kahin zyada baar, kisi ki kahani ka mod ban jaata hai.
Yeh jaankari kahan se hai
Yeh guide samajhne mein madad karti hai. Yeh nidaan nahin hai. Uske liye doctor se milein.